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11 Aug 2017, 10:33 am

Expressing those exact feelings is why we're all here.


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11 Aug 2017, 10:55 am

Yep, Imhere...the guy is a definite nutjob.

Who would get upset, unless one is crazy, about somebody saying "good morning?"



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11 Aug 2017, 11:09 am

Someone who doesn't understand how he feels and doesn't understand the difference between friendship and romance and doesn't understand what he wanted to be or what he wanted me to be would get upset. Do you see it? He kinda pulled closer but when I responded in kind he pushed me away because he didn't know what to do.



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11 Aug 2017, 11:09 am

That's normal.

Apprehension isn't a big deal & we already knew that here.


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11 Aug 2017, 11:18 am

That IS NOT normal, and it HURT. Badly.



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11 Aug 2017, 11:30 am

I'm sorry to misinterpret but again we're here to reinterpret & find peace.

Lots of painful things happen to me & I still love the same people.


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11 Aug 2017, 11:32 am

I still think the guy has MAJOR problems.

To not like "good morning" is beyond ridiculous.



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11 Aug 2017, 11:36 am

Not everyone's a morning person. Some people get stressed on waking up. I certainly don't get happy responses from anybody when I'm up early.


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11 Aug 2017, 11:38 am

I asked the woman I love to go on a morning hike recently. I was told where to shove my morning hikes. I love her anyway.

Not a big deal, really.


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11 Aug 2017, 11:48 am

This had nothing to do with being a morning person. There's obviously more to that hike story, and it really doesn't have anything to do with this. And yes it is a big deal. We never know what to say or do, if an aspie will take it as an act of kindness or an assault on their inner person for trying to get too close.



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11 Aug 2017, 11:53 am

Sure, that was during a music festival whence everyone but me was tired from partying.

I don't take life too seriously because that would just be retaining negativity. We all have to live around all kinds of tension so I make a point of celebrating with cherished people no matter what everyone else thinks.


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11 Aug 2017, 1:15 pm

I hope the guy apologizes. He was in the wrong.



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11 Aug 2017, 1:29 pm

I hope everyone realizes apologies from aspies are valid, equally.


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11 Aug 2017, 1:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
imhere wrote:
Once my aspie texted me "good night". I didn't get that text until I woke up the next morning, so I replied "good morning". He snapped at me, accusing me of being inappropriate for saying good morning to him because apparently that was too intimate. Huh? So you can't say someone has romantic feelings over good night/good morning. I don't have a clue what that means to my aspie, because clearly there is some double standard there but I assure you, he does not have romantic feelings for me.



Your guy friend is a nutjob. Sorry.

I was talking about the *everyday* good morning/nights, not the once in a while thing. It's about the frequency.


To me it sounds like Anngables friend was infatuated with her and didn't know how to express his true feelings. He may have been afraid to tell her because he was incapable of reading her and was afraid of losing her like so many before her. After 2 years of chasing her he finally figured she wouldn't like him in the way he wanted her so begrudgingly reverted to a friendship. Maybe his wounds will heal, maybe not.


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11 Aug 2017, 2:03 pm

imhere please forgive me if you have said this before, but do you know his sexual orientation? Is it possible he is not straight or maybe even asexual?


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