Anyone ever heard of Virtual Dating Assistants?

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This seems like an intriguing option to many who seem to fail the online dating game or simply cannot stand the hours to months it takes to message the many people who never reply. For people with Aspergers, could this be an option?

This service allows you to hire someone to run your online dating profiles for you and be able to do the messaging and date set ups. You suck at thinking of what the hell to say? No problem. Pay a pro to do it. Let them spend several hours a week doing the search with results you could never get. Let them go through all the BS of small talk and all that other crap people expect with online dating.

Of course people may think this is dishonest but at the end of the day, everyone needs a last resort somewhere. Plus it could be seen as another way of getting you matches in the future. At the beginning, people probably thought paying a dating site to help you find dates was weird. Now it's normal. Furthermore, there needs to be a way to balance out the playing field of women having unlimited choices while men seem to get the scraps. Plus you get to give the approval on who you want messaged and to meet with. You'd be able to read all the messages that were exchanged by your ghost writer so you would know all about the person before meeting them.

The downside I see is how you'd act once meeting them in person but maybe a really skilled writer can make your Aspergers known to your date before hand if you want. The other downside I see with this is it's very expensive, like 500 a month but I think it's on the deal that dates are guaranteed.

What do you guys think of a service like this?

What happens when the person finds out it wasn't really you they were talking to online?

Also I would imagine your typical fairly popular neurotypical male isn't going to struggle as much to find a relationship as a male with aspergers who struggles socially. Sort of like how women with aspergers likely struggle more to find relationships than fairly popular and typical neurotypical women. Most women with aspergers do not have 'unlimited options'.

[quote="Sweetleaf"]What happens when the person finds out it wasn't really you they were talking to online?

I'd imagine they would take it to their grave and the person wouldn't find out unless they told them.

If I could of afforded to pay $500 for months of doing this I would of just went the mail-order bride(or international dating if your prefer that term) route instead.

It does sound like a nice idea but the price is definitely far too high for the type of service you'd be receiving. If I'm paying a large sum of money I'd expect to be a part of the conversation and have the dating coach help put it in a better format when the message goes out, I don't want them to have the conversation for me. Or at least they could give ideas of how to respond and we could personalize it.

I'd rather use my money as toilet paper.

Nothing helps you if you still look the same and earn the same.

If you're going to do this, you might as well blow up a girlfriend doll, and hug her up.

Is this seriously the point we're reaching in the dating world? Christ almighty...

Sounds like a ridiculous sham to me. Somebody's laughing all the way to the bank.

Surprised about the backlash but to each of their own. An example I can think of is how staffing agencies have skyrocketed because a lot of people have trouble finding jobs and were frustrated with sending their resume to hundreds of employers and get no results. Sound familiar? The staffing agency fixes a persons resume, submits their resume to different jobs, and sets up the interview for them. If people who struggle with finding jobs can find outside help, I don't see how it would be taboo with dating. You are giving your virtual assistant all authentic information about you. It's not like you're using fake pictures or lie about your occupation etc. They just present the information you give about yourself better. Just like staffing agencies do with struggling job seekers. Getting a job and finding dates are very similar endeavors. A lot of competition and the ones who don't stand out are left behind in the pack.

While they're at it, get them to check your WP posts too. That way you might avoid referring to all the women on dating sites as 'the scraps'.