Rant about being single

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Women quickly learn that straight rejection doesn't work and it's better to come up with an excuse like I'm busy.
Men, at least NT men think that if a woman says no, she means maybe, also they think if a woman replies at all that means a maybe.
Also even I got a lot of abuse when I was being honest and I said I didn't want to carry on emailing.
The best was "who do you think you are, you should be happy I messaged you at all"
Or when a guy comes to chat in real life when I am tired, I just had an 8 hours bus ride and the only thing I want is to sleep, he comes and he doesn't understand when I say I'm sorry but I'm too tired to chat and he just carries on.
Countless times I had experienced this.
It is easier just to ignore them or to have some excuses ready.

If all men in the world agree to stop asking out women and making the first move then things would change to our favor.

My only successful flings/relationships were with those who chased me.

Right, and all the top earning salesmen are going to sit at home and wait for their phones to ring so that those not able to pay their rent can have a bigger marketshare.

Never gonna happen.

Either accept that you'll only get the girls that chase you, or change your approach to chasing women until you work out a successful formula.

Or you make your product so appealing and hardly available, so people would come to you begging you for one. Or you change the targets to a market that finds it much more appealing.

My successful formula is what I mentioned above.

Guess what my gf told me after few dates?

She literally said: “Now I know how much is hard for guys to chase the girl they like who’s playing hard to get”.

She said that to me out of blue without me brining up any such topic. But I realized that I really gave her a hard time at first, it was something she never experienced before, all her exes chased her.


And I admit, it feels soooooooo much better to be the chasee than to be the chaser - I find a pleasure in it - once you have a taste of the former you can never go back to the chaser thing again.

Interesting. I've been both. I find it best when it's somewhere more in the middle.. a bit more balanced, mutual pursuit combined with mutual playing it cool & of course, mutual attraction. And then sometimes it works out better being one or the other, totally depending on the situation at hand and other person involved. But in general it's never good to be the chaser to anything remotely close to desperation levels.. that just doesn't end well for anyone.

It would also be great if some men would stop thinking that women hitting on them were "sluts throwing themselves at any man."

I am fortunate, I don’t get guys hitting on me. For the most part, they completely leave me alone. I’m not the sort of person who would politely listen to them any more. I’d tell them to clear off. Maybe they can sense it? Who knows.

Something about me means I don’t get approached. Not any more. Whenever I did when I was younger, they reminded me of annoying flies buzzing around.

Pick up artistry and dating in general I don’t have a lot of time for. I prefer relationships to develop naturally with people you meet generally living your life.

It looks like you all are just ranting to rant.

Carry on, and let me know if you change your minds.

I'm glad I'm single.

I'd be always dizzy if I had two heads.....

I thought you were married

Damn, I could only dream of being a chasee. Never met a woman who found me interesting enough to bother though.

in the age-range of 118 chasing sounds very optimistic


but the positive side of living single: nobody asks silly things while i'm taking a shower or brushing my teeth

Men thinking that must have some serious self-esteem issues. "She's interested in me? Wow, she must have no standards at all!"

Is the thread title "Rant About Being Single" or "Help Me I Need A Life Coach"?

HA!

The former, of course ... which does not necessarily exclude the latter.

Rant on!