OK if it so impossible, how did my boyfriend find me?
The_Face_of_Boo
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There was nothing aggressive in Boo's post too.
She’s just mad ever since I removed her from my fb.... ages ago.
There was nothing aggressive in Boo's post too.
She’s just mad ever since I removed her from my fb.... ages ago.
Maybe she's trying to tease you.
The_Face_of_Boo
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There was nothing aggressive in Boo's post too.
She’s just mad ever since I removed her from my fb.... ages ago.
Maybe she's trying to tease you.
Probably but.... *yawn* her ways are too boring.
Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
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goldfish21
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Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.
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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.
Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.
what a load of poppycock
everything happens for a reason, and they're single so as to not drag the others down?
and what about those in the relationships who are dragging others down, that's also for a reason?
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oh god, that one was just absolutely unbearable to read. i don't regret deleting that thread at all.
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הייתי צוללת עכשיו למים
הכי, הכי עמוקים
לא לשמוע כלום
לא לדעת כלום
וזה הכל אהובי, זה הכל.
goldfish21
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Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.
what a load of poppycock
everything happens for a reason, and they're single so as to not drag the others down?
and what about those in the relationships who are dragging others down, that's also for a reason?
Everything happens for a reason.. sometimes we don't know what that reason is yet.
Maybe they're meant to learn from their mistakes and not do that to someone again? Maybe they're meant to teach the other person that they deserve better?
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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.
The_Face_of_Boo
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Explain? Why it triggered him?
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Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.
what a load of poppycock
everything happens for a reason, and they're single so as to not drag the others down?
and what about those in the relationships who are dragging others down, that's also for a reason?
Everything happens for a reason.. sometimes we don't know what that reason is yet.
Maybe they're meant to learn from their mistakes and not do that to someone again? Maybe they're meant to teach the other person that they deserve better?
does that mean that there's a reason for those children dying in syria? or children dying from cancer, AIDS; ebola? what lesson do they have to learn?
people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation. Was the universe made just for us? I don't think so. we know s**t about what is there, and how and why it came to be and why we're still here.
Sweetleaf
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I have even had second thoughts because I think I cannot put enough in.....like I am still working on getting work and such. But thing is he really loves me, so like he wants to be with me even as I work through that...If I broke up with him he would be devastated so I certainly am not staying with him for him to provide for me. I really love him and I think in the hypothetical situation that someone came to do us harm in our apartment....I'd defend him if need be, though logically he is bigger so he might do more defending. But that is the point if everything goes to s**t, which could happen in this country we both have each others backs.
With all honesty, do you think your male version (unemployed too, aspie, same non conventional looks, same shortcomings...etc) would be able to win the female version of your boyfriend?
As a start, the hypothetical 'female version of your boyfriend' would have faaaaar more options on okcupid than what your boyfriend had on okcupid - because that's a one reality of online dating: men outnumber women by far, and women receive tons more offers than men.
On the other hand, your hypothetical male version, would have faaaar less options on okcupid than what you really had there.
Well I am not talking about hypotheticals I am just talking about real life. The hypothetical male version of me could be gay for all I know...so really its rather pointless really to debate about it.
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We won't go back.
goldfish21
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Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.
"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!"
"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!"
"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!"
"It's those <insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!"
"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!"
"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ...
All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.
what a load of poppycock
everything happens for a reason, and they're single so as to not drag the others down?
and what about those in the relationships who are dragging others down, that's also for a reason?
Everything happens for a reason.. sometimes we don't know what that reason is yet.
Maybe they're meant to learn from their mistakes and not do that to someone again? Maybe they're meant to teach the other person that they deserve better?
does that mean that there's a reason for those children dying in syria? or children dying from cancer, AIDS; ebola? what lesson do they have to learn?
people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation. Was the universe made just for us? I don't think so. we know s**t about what is there, and how and why it came to be and why we're still here.
I never claimed to know the reason everything happens. This is one of those times where I don't know what those reasons are yet - and may never know. Keep asking; maybe you'll learn.
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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.
I mean, how convenient for them to have an entire universe to blame for the problems they cause for themselves. Why not blame something that's beyond their ability to control for their lack of "Luck with the Ladies" so they don't have to bathe, brush, floss, deodorize, dress well, go out, mingle, smile, listen, laugh, and socialize? Why not blame the infinite, uncaring universe instead of their own laziness, lack of personal hygiene, ignorance, body odor, bad breath, and poor manners?
This is why people invent ridiculous things like astrology, numerology, and entire nations of supernatural "gods" who have nothing better to do with their immortality than to determine what vexations they will inflict on us mere mortals.
Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.
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