Cute girl with blue hair already taken

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Even though I live in a heavily redneck and Baptist Bible Belt city, I occasionally see alternative people. Unfortunately, most of them already have friendship circles and aren't interested in adding to them. I can talk with them but the conversation will fizzle out and they'll move on without me. In the case of females, they tend to already be in relationships and their boyfriends/husbands don't let them have male friends or they tell me they are too busy to hang out.

When I was bringing in the afternoon book drop for the library I work at, I saw a young cute nerdy/geeky girl wearing glasses and her hair was dyed blue walking to the entrance. Unfortunately, she had a boyfriend by her side. This guy was also obese, had long hair, a beard, was wearing sports shorts, and a t-shirt, all the things my parents, church elders, teachers, and rednecks told me to avoid if I wanted a girlfriend. I don't fit in anywhere. I am too "weird" for the mainstream and too "boring" for the alternative worlds.

Why don't you join a group of some sort? It's a good way to meet people who share a common interest. You need to branch out a bit. Are you doing anything but work and internet forums? How about an adult community course through Parks and Rec or your local school district?

Focus less on the elusive girlfriend, and more on just meeting people.

I've actually been going to a Meet Up group in my area since 2016 but even in that group I struggle to socialize. As I said above, I can talk with the people but the conversations tend to fizzle out.

A community course through Park and Rec has never crossed my mind nor has anyone else brought it up as an option. How would I go about it? I once tried to start a club at the local college but the coordinator refused to help me. She started up other clubs but kept essentially telling me to f**k off.

Where I live, both the school districts and community centers, also the local tech college, also the university, have non-credit programs usually at a pretty reasonable fee like $40, for all manner of programs - music, art, foreign language, cooking, exercise, meditation, self-improvement, writing, dance, stuff like that. They send around course catalogs by bulk mail. You might also find things on community bulletin boards, like at grocery stores. And if there is a "little nickel" or "shopper stopper" publication in your area, they might have ads in that, too.

The “Bible belt” is bigger than the whole Levant, so you would surely see “alternative” people.

Are you sure you are not referring to your own town only?

Your parents, church elders, teachers and rednecks likely aren't into the alternative style, and thus don't advocate for it. Moreover, there's a big difference between wearing a t-shirt and sports shorts whilst trying to attract a partner and when you already have a partner. You're trying to put your best foot forward when trying to attract a partner, and that's not as necessary when you're already in a relationship.

Do you 'look' Alternative yourself? I only ask as if you dont and you look pretty regular then that will be a big barrier to attracting an alternative girl.

Its a kind of hidden language that I found was used back then and all the wearing of band t-shirts etc is basically a way to identify someone into your choice of music.

Really easy imo, kind of walking adverts really for each other but of course when you dont want to speak to randoms then thats the best way to do it and it definitely works.

Cute girls with blue hair are always taken.

As someone who is as much of a fan of extreme sports as upper-class sports like golf, tennis, and rugby union, as well as having gone to a Quiet Riot concert one night and Kenny G the next, I definitely feel your pain. You are not alone Mark!

Cute girls with blue hair are often nasty, crazy and not worth the time.

When I was younger, I wore spiked bracelets, different kinds of necklaces, gelled my hair, and wore various rock music t-shirts. Another kid did but took things further by wearing white contact lenses to look "demonic" and wore extreme metal t-shirts like Nile, Children of Bodom, and Cradle of Filth. For whatever reason, he got the girls but I didn't. Today, I occasionally wear a t-shirt from a band I like or an anime shirt but I haven't worn any bracelets and necklaces for a long time. They would break or get worn out from overuse so I just stopped caring about them. I no longer use hair gel because I stopped liking how it felt and my hair is thinning out in the front of my head; I also keep my hair short these days because my hair that isn't thinning is very thick and feels heavy when it gets long.

I wonder if its that you come across like your just not interested in them. Ive found it very difficult in the past to tell if guys I know with asd are interested in anything because its just tough to read them. But if I liked them then I would make the first move regardless. Not many girls will ask you up front because its just as embarrassing as it is for guys if you get it wrong, but also if you give off no signals then its going to be hard to get further.

I think most people could improve their attractiveness just by smiling more. It doesn't matter if it's a "fake" smile, it just makes you seem nicer and more accepting.

I have to wonder why the OP seems to show interest only in those women who are already in relationships. Are there really no single women -- none at all -- of a similar age in his community? Or does he only notice women when they are already in the company of a man?

Does it take the presence of another man to confirm a woman's attractiveness to the OP?

I do not pursue girls who already have boyfriends if I know they are or look like they are in relationships, I just notice them. I saw her and felt dejected because I wish I could have a girlfriend like her. When the sister of a support group member was single after getting out of a bad relationship, I tried to establish one with her because I thought my "time had come" but she rejected me.

You make it sound like a relationship is something one can just drive to the store and buy one. When you live in an area where you don't fit in with the general populace, the social scene is going to feel incredibly shallow. Everywhere I go in my area, I am on the outside looking in.

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