Fnord wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
.It is not your fault you don't have what you want; that thing you want is love.
DebatableIndeed.
To be loved, one must first be loveable.Everyone is lovable. We are not good at conveying our lovableness to others though.
Google the word "loveable", and then click on "Images". Do you see anyone or anything that is ugly? No. They're all "cute" in some way.
Only "cute" can be "loveable".
You said "cute IN SOME WAY. How does one define that? Is there some objective standard or measure as to what exactly that is?
I have my doubts as to whether that can be true in any non-subjective terms.
But I do agree with TGI. It does take personal responsibility to achieve what you want in life, whether that's love or anything else. That's never going to change.
In Marknis's case, saying "it takes personal responsibility" isn't really going to be helpful. Whilst true, it's not what Marknis needs or wants to hear right now. If Marknis finds true love or even a coffee date, it's going to be because someone values him for who and what he is--no different from anyone else. Marknis needs, more than finding love, to find happiness in life that doesn't hinge on any other person besides himself. If there's not a single girl out there who values him, it means nothing more than there's just not a girl out there who is worthy of him. If Marknis can learn to see his own worth, what other people think or say about him isn't going to matter. The irony of all this is that people who maintain that kind of mentality often are the kinds of people in relationships. It may not carry 100% certainty, but it's a step in the right direction.