I asked a girl out on a date...

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Herman
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18 Dec 2013, 9:46 pm

I am 29 years old and I realise this is the first time I have actually done this. This year I started to come out of my shell more, be more sociable and on more of a similar wavelength to NT's. This after years of being very reclusive and apathetic about life.

This year Ive been to more social things than ever before, and been on a few kind of "friend dates" with girls, which were very non-intimidating for both parties, went well. I dont think anyone could have figured me out as autistic.

But more recently I have attempted to socially interact with women whom I did have strong romantic feelings, and my god things went to hell. The characters in a Ben Stiller movie would cringe at the level of awkward situations and communication fuckups.

Today for some reason I made the bold and totally uncharacteristic move of asking a girl I do not know at all, on a date. But whom did I choose for this venture? The receptionist at the doctors surgery! I have seen her at work a few times, not spoken any more words than absolutely necessary as my mind is always on other things. But I she seems to me to have a good heart, and she has a subtle understated prettiness about her. My kind of girl, so I did it.

But man, I f****d it up. I gave her my number when I should have got hers, she'll probably hesitate and decide against this crazy proposition. But she was smiling and blushing when I was talking to her like she was very happy to hear it.

Man I am confused and having a painful mix of too strong emotions. I guess this is what normal people feel like when they are 14-15 and going on their first dates. This is going to be potentially very awkward if she says no. I have to go there very regularly to pick up scripts for my parents.

Well, I just thought I would share this for the fact I feel pretty awful right now, like I have set myself up for shame and rejection. Also im on tenderhooks thinking about the possibility of her calling back. I dont even know her name ffs!

In a couple days time I may have a success story for you or be licking my wounds in a corner somewhere.



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18 Dec 2013, 9:58 pm

It doesn't sound like you messed up at all to me. The fact that you gave your number to her seems more polite, because it's more of an open invitation than a personal request. Since you don't know her that well, asking flat out for her number could be pushy. Good luck!



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19 Dec 2013, 1:12 am

Well you've got to start somewhere, this seems fine.



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19 Dec 2013, 2:26 am

You're one up on most of us. God speed, man.



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19 Dec 2013, 4:17 am

Well done! I mean that - coming out of your shell and identifying yourself as being more NT this year is a MASSIVE step. I too go through the same NT ups and downs, I am on a bit of an up at the moment.

Potentially, asking girls out you really do like is like juggling knives and unless you're well practised at juggling balls/batons etc you're going to be worried at getting cut. Put this girl to the back of your mind and if you do get that date, take it easy.