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09 Aug 2021, 7:13 am

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Why do people respond to somebody like years later and expect a response? he must be long gone


I just noticed lol. Still a pretty valid thread today as those couple of years ago I guess.



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20 Dec 2021, 4:38 pm

because being on the spectrum or having autism affects a persons social-skills or their ability to socialize and connect with others, and this is obviously going to affect mens dating lives/sex lives a lot more than women due to how men are always expected to make the first move and court women, initiate interactions, while women have always played a passive role. Reminds me of a long post i read somewhere, and i thought the person hit the nail on the head



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20 Dec 2021, 8:41 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
while women have always played a passive role.


They don't, NT girls strategically position themselves in front of men "they like" or want to be associated with. Think of Bambi choosing to sit in front of an alpha wolf pack. Bambi knows what the wolves will do when it prances around where the pack is.



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20 Dec 2021, 8:58 pm

cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
while women have always played a passive role.


They don't, NT girls strategically position themselves in front of men "they like" or want to be associated with. Think of Bambi choosing to sit in front of an alpha wolf pack. Bambi knows what the wolves will do when it prances around where the pack is.


well women normally never approach guys or ask guys out, or be the one to escalate things



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20 Dec 2021, 9:19 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
while women have always played a passive role.


They don't, NT girls strategically position themselves in front of men "they like" or want to be associated with. Think of Bambi choosing to sit in front of an alpha wolf pack. Bambi knows what the wolves will do when it prances around where the pack is.


well women normally never approach guys or ask guys out, or be the one to escalate things


True, but the the "bambi" metaphor means they know where to place themselves in front of the males they seek. They let the men do the rest.

You won't find bambi joining the dungeon's and dragon's club or the math club or computer science club or the online gamers clubs.



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20 Dec 2021, 9:37 pm

cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
while women have always played a passive role.


They don't, NT girls strategically position themselves in front of men "they like" or want to be associated with. Think of Bambi choosing to sit in front of an alpha wolf pack. Bambi knows what the wolves will do when it prances around where the pack is.


well women normally never approach guys or ask guys out, or be the one to escalate things


True, but the the "bambi" metaphor means they know where to place themselves in front of the males they seek. They let the men do the rest.

You won't find bambi joining the dungeon's and dragon's club or the math club or computer science club or the online gamers clubs.



and a lot of men are oblivious to a womans subtle signs of interest



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20 Dec 2021, 11:34 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
and a lot of men are oblivious to a womans subtle signs of interest


There's some published research from series of experiments by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov which reveal that all it takes is a tenth of a second for a girl to form an impression of a male stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don't significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments).

But for a man you can only work out if a girl is interested in you by talking to them and seeing how they respond.



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21 Dec 2021, 12:24 am

cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
and a lot of men are oblivious to a womans subtle signs of interest


There's some published research from series of experiments by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov which reveal that all it takes is a tenth of a second for a girl to form an impression of a male stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don't significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments).

But for a man you can only work out if a girl is interested in you by talking to them and seeing how they respond.


yup, men beginning an interaction will never change



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21 Dec 2021, 12:37 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
and a lot of men are oblivious to a womans subtle signs of interest


There's some published research from series of experiments by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov which reveal that all it takes is a tenth of a second for a girl to form an impression of a male stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don't significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments).

But for a man you can only work out if a girl is interested in you by talking to them and seeing how they respond.


yup, men beginning an interaction will never change


or get a t-shirt with logo "Yes I earn a 6 figure salary" :lol:



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21 Dec 2021, 3:03 pm

It's because Autistic Women are too willing to get with NTs.


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21 Dec 2021, 3:05 pm

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It's because Autistic Women are too willing to get with NTs.


Autistic men are just as willing to get with NTs when the opportunity presents itself.


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22 Dec 2021, 4:14 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Zakatar wrote:
It's because Autistic Women are too willing to get with NTs.


Autistic men are just as willing to get with NTs when the opportunity presents itself.


and like always or as usual, women will always play a passive role in human male-female interactions