Where To Meet Women When...?

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Where can I meet women when:
- I have no luck on dating sites
- My workplace is all-male
- My hobbies and interests are all male-dominated
- My friends are all men and the few of them who might be able to set me up with someone don't want to

You could try a mail-order bride site or volunteer somewhere. If you have your own place you could try volunteering at a homeless shelter & take in a woman who needs a place to stay. I would of went the mail-order bride route if I would of had the money & resources & I would of taken in a girl who needed a place to stay if I would of had my own place.

That's exploitive and creepy as hell.

Over half (50.18%) of Australians are female. You need to diversify your life.

I don't want to go the mail-order bride route. I'd prefer to forge a genuine connection with someone. I work full-time so have no time to volunteer, not that I'd really want to anyway, as I believe in exchanging value for value and I don't have my own place but even if I did, I wouldn't want to take a homeless person in just to make them my girlfriend. There's too much of a power imbalance there from the very start imo, and I wouldn't be comfortable with that, even if I'm the one who holds the power.

I want a relationahip that's real, that's voluntary and based on shared values and a genuine fondness for one another, not one that exploits people in unfortunate life circumstances for my own personal gain.

Okay, I'm not opposed to that, but how would I go about doing that?

If you want to meet people and they aren't interested in your activities, take an interest in theirs. I would suggest exploring other interests, hobbies, and activities that involve both women and men; preferably cooperative activities (like rockclimbing) rather than parallel activities (like painting) which require little or no interaction with others (on the other hand, I took a watercolor class once and I was the only male in the room).
For example; I have occasionally participated in watching football (especially in college) even though I don't particularly like football, but the football game wasn't the point; the social interaction which was centered around the football game was; it provided a common ground; a context for meeting and hanging out with people.

Me and my female friends got to exhibitions and tours at galleries and museums. There's usually quite a mix of people there. You can strike up a conversation about a piece of art and it won't seem weird.

They aren't all high brow either. We went to a video game history exhibition once.

Join a yoga class. The yoga will do you good too.
Or... try a dancing class... whatever style takes your fancy... or a zumba class... or learn to bake/cook class.
Or... get a dog... I've known a few guys who have pulled whilst walking the dog... and go to dog training classes too.

I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 21 Dec 2018, 7:45 am, edited 1 time in total.

That other small percentage who meet people other ways possibly don't have friends to introduce them to people. The majority have already paired up via friends meet ups and the singles are the only single one left, the minority.

Then it stands to reason that the minority find another way.

The other ways will never be the majority, but that doesn't mean that the others ways don't work.

True, but I never understood the 'join a class' advice , this one never works really, as i explained in detail above.

"Never works" is conjecture on your part. What you mean is it hasn't worked for you.

Doesn't mean it won't work for other people.

Were you ever able to chat with someone stranger effortlessly after class? They just rush home instantly in my experience.

You don't have to meet people when you "join a class." You can also benefit from what's being taught.

Saying this, I've never actually "joined a class" except when I went to college.

I agree. All of the classes I've ever been to have gone for a drink afterwards, including the yoga classes