Someone liked and messaged you. Stupid OkCupid

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sly279
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21 Dec 2018, 7:44 pm

So apparently someone liked and messaged me but by time she eventually comes up in the stupid tinder thing it could be weeks or months later and she’s just moved on.



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21 Dec 2018, 8:13 pm

Why can't you get her message?



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21 Dec 2018, 8:51 pm

That's how they try to get you so you pay to see likes. Online dating 101.


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21 Dec 2018, 9:48 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Why can't you get her message?

Cause i dont know who she is.
OkCupid went bumble but worse
You only see messages after you’ve both liked each other



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21 Dec 2018, 9:49 pm

She didn't sign her name, or some screen name, or something?



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22 Dec 2018, 12:25 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
She didn't sign her name, or some screen name, or something?


Here’s how it works
Unless you’ve both liked each other the message is invisible and OkCupid just says someone messaged you. It’s suppose to then put them in the top of the swiping list but I only had one person in my list and it wasn’t her apparently.
So unless I like her back I’ll never see her message.



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22 Dec 2018, 1:39 am

Homer_Bob wrote:
That's how they try to get you so you pay to see likes. Online dating 101.



^ This, and sly... the message may be programmatically generated (fake) by Okc itself, to
make you pay.



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22 Dec 2018, 2:00 am

I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!


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22 Dec 2018, 2:05 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!

If liking her back was an option without paying, I'm sure he'd have done it by now, but my understanding is that you can't see who likes you unless you pay for a membership.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:49 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
That's how they try to get you so you pay to see likes. Online dating 101.



^ This, and sly... the message may be programmatically generated (fake) by Okc itself, to
make you pay.

Could be but I doubt it. I got a fake march from pof with clearly professional model pictures and poor grammar that said she only wants to hear from premium members. Also have a phone number, doubler scam ? Lol
I’d considered paying for some dating sites but even if I saw the few(7) women who liked me it wouldn’t matter most are from years ago and forgot about me and they’d never date me anyways.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:51 am

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I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!

She hasn’t come up to like. She may have blocked me apparently is one reason
I’ve liked 99% of women on OkCupid in my state. Tens of thousands of women.
So I only get 1 person to swipe on a day some days there’s non.

OkCupid has pretty much dried up for me.
Tinder, pof,bummble have me doing 30ish a day.
Thousands and thousands of women liked non liked me back, what’s that tell you?



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22 Dec 2018, 3:54 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!

If liking her back was an option without paying, I'm sure he'd have done it by now, but my understanding is that you can't see who likes you unless you pay for a membership.

I don’t much like the idea of paying to be rejected by women.
They sometimes ask me to comment and I say 1 star and they ask what they can do better and I say i dont know can you make women like me if not don’t think there’s much you can do. I’m not their idea demographic.



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22 Dec 2018, 4:36 am

sly279 wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!

If liking her back was an option without paying, I'm sure he'd have done it by now, but my understanding is that you can't see who likes you unless you pay for a membership.

I don’t much like the idea of paying to be rejected by women.
They sometimes ask me to comment and I say 1 star and they ask what they can do better and I say i dont know can you make women like me if not don’t think there’s much you can do. I’m not their idea demographic.

Yeah I wouldn't expect or advise you to pay for a membership, it could be a bot or someone who just doesn't reply, or someone you aren't interested in. I was just explaining to kitty why you couldnt just message the girl who liked you.



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22 Dec 2018, 4:40 am

sly279 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Why can't you get her message?

Cause i dont know who she is.
OkCupid went bumble but worse
You only see messages after you’ve both liked each other


If it's a legitimate message, you have to search for matches and her picture should have a blue bar (if I remember right) under it. It will look different than the other profiles in your search results. It's stupid, because they don't really explain that, but I learned it when I got a message like you're describing.


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22 Dec 2018, 5:41 pm

sly279 wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I would say like her back, this woman like you & messaged you, what are you waiting for. You been having trouble getting women to like you & be with you, GO Get HER!

She hasn’t come up to like. She may have blocked me apparently is one reason
I’ve liked 99% of women on OkCupid in my state. Tens of thousands of women.
So I only get 1 person to swipe on a day some days there’s non.

OkCupid has pretty much dried up for me.
Tinder, pof,bummble have me doing 30ish a day.
Thousands and thousands of women liked non liked me back, what’s that tell you?


I’m sorry


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23 Dec 2018, 11:24 am

sly279 wrote:
Tinder, pof,bummble have me doing 30ish a day.


~30 matches a day you mean? That's not bad at all.