11 Jan 2019, 1:45 am
ShyGirl7 wrote:
nick007 wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
Actually, someone telling you they want to build a life with you when they haven't met you isn't creepy - sometimes people do fall deeply in love with other people's personalities (instead of looks) over the Internet.
- However, this is not one of those times - and a guy telling you that the first day he talks to you is obviously a scam.
Me & both my exes & current girlfriend told each other things like that before we met in person. However we had known each other for a while online 1st & we chatted aLOT. Someone saying something like that after only chatting for a day is full of sh!t.- However, this is not one of those times - and a guy telling you that the first day he talks to you is obviously a scam.
Yes, that's precisely my point.
He did say that he feels a connection with me. I’m ending it talking to him.
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11 Jan 2019, 3:33 am
Kitty4670 wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
nick007 wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
Actually, someone telling you they want to build a life with you when they haven't met you isn't creepy - sometimes people do fall deeply in love with other people's personalities (instead of looks) over the Internet.
- However, this is not one of those times - and a guy telling you that the first day he talks to you is obviously a scam.
Me & both my exes & current girlfriend told each other things like that before we met in person. However we had known each other for a while online 1st & we chatted aLOT. Someone saying something like that after only chatting for a day is full of sh!t.- However, this is not one of those times - and a guy telling you that the first day he talks to you is obviously a scam.
Yes, that's precisely my point.
He did say that he feels a connection with me. I’m ending it talking to him.
i'm glad to hear you are finding out how to tell fakers from the real ones.
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11 Jan 2019, 8:03 am
12 Jan 2019, 7:56 am
I’m talking to a new man now, he is not in the Army 
He didn’t talk about sex, we are just talking & getting to know each other I met him on OkCupid 4 days ago, he is a nice guy, he is patience with me I really like him & he really like me too. He knows about my Cerebral Pasly, Aspergers, Psoriasis & Dyslexia.
12 Jan 2019, 11:13 am
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I’m talking to a new man now, he is not in the Army He didn’t talk about sex, we are just talking & getting to know each other I met him on OkCupid 4 days ago, he is a nice guy, he is patience with me I really like him & he really like me too. He knows about my Cerebral Pasly, Aspergers, Psoriasis & Dyslexia.
He didn’t talk about sex, we are just talking & getting to know each other I met him on OkCupid 4 days ago, he is a nice guy, he is patience with me I really like him & he really like me too. He knows about my Cerebral Pasly, Aspergers, Psoriasis & Dyslexia.It's nice that you told him your diagnoses but also be careful with that. Many people could view your conditions as evidence that you are vulnerable or an easy target for emotional, financial or sexual manipulation. They won't know exactly what the conditions are but they might think you are impressionable or not very smart. I'd start asking them what they've learned or read about CP and ASD. If they are interested in pursuing a relationship they should also be reading about your diagnoses to better support you. Make them accountable to understanding you, not just feeling sorry for you or seeing it as a vulnerability.
Me: "So, have you done any research on CP?" "What is your understanding of CP and how it affects people?"
Me: "Do you know any other people / women with ASD? Where were they on the spectrum? Were their needs similar to mine or different? What have you noticed about my particular needs?"
Of course you don't want it to sound like a job interview, but it's reasonable to ask these types of questions.
14 Jan 2019, 9:44 pm
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16 Jan 2019, 11:28 pm
Kitty4670 wrote:
People sure can make things harder for me. Why can people be happy for me? There other people here that on dating sites & I don’t read be careful or he is a scam artist. I thought this is a site where you get support from your friends?
I am sorry
it was not my intent to be a spoil sport or a killjoy, we are just worried for you as there are lots of predators out there. it is a dangerous world and one must be careful and vigilant and discerning if one wants to avoid trouble. I would be very happy if the fella was good for you but in this case there is insufficient data so I worry, one aspie to another, one aspie for another.
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16 Jan 2019, 11:51 pm
16 Jan 2019, 11:57 pm
auntblabby wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
People sure can make things harder for me. Why can people be happy for me? There other people here that on dating sites & I don’t read be careful or he is a scam artist. I thought this is a site where you get support from your friends?
I am sorry
it was not my intent to be a spoil sport or a killjoy, we are just worried for you as there are lots of predators out there. it is a dangerous world and one must be careful and vigilant and discerning if one wants to avoid trouble. I would be very happy if the fella was good for you but in this case there is insufficient data so I worry, one aspie to another, one aspie for another.I love it that you care, this is a different guy. The guy I’m talking to is a good guy, he been caring, patience with me, he never pressure me into anything, we met on OkCupid 8 days ago. I told him about my Cerebral Pasly, Aspergers & Psoriasis, I even told him that I watch kid shows & cartoons, he still talking to me. We been taking things slowly, we been texting almost all day everyday. It’s not like he can come to visit me, he lives in UK & I live in California.
