The question of attractiveness
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Additionally, if personality is kind, and attitude is positive, then that person is all-round attractive, and healthy, both emotionally and physically. If you can find someone who is attractive in both categories, it’s the best case.
I kinda disagree, if you're too overweight or underweight to the point its causing medical concerns that is not attractive, but one doesn't have to be fit and slim to be attractive, not everyone has the same body type. Good hygiene, a haircut/style that looks good on you, and clean clothes can do quite a lot.
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Additionally, if personality is kind, and attitude is positive, then that person is all-round attractive, and healthy, both emotionally and physically. If you can find someone who is attractive in both categories, it’s the best case.
I kinda disagree, if you're too overweight or underweight to the point its causing medical concerns that is not attractive, but one doesn't have to be fit and slim to be attractive, not everyone has the same body type. Good hygiene, a haircut/style that looks good on you, and clean clothes can do quite a lot.
The majority of Americans are overweight or obese, so if only fit people can get into relationships, we’re in trouble.
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I'm beginning to not want a man anymore. It's not worth the pain.
When I was young, what primarily interested me in a girl/woman was whether she would have sex with me, although I wasn't actually trying to be a player. I just didn't think beyond that point until I was actually in the relationship. BTW some of these relationships were started by the female. Of everybody I dated or had sex with, I would say the vast majority did not look back on it with extreme regret. A couple probably did, however they weren't entirely blameless for the failure of those relationships.
Nevertheless I was guilty of valuing sexual compatibility over other admirable characteristics. Too many negatives such as if the woman was older than I and also had some sort of chronic health condition, and I would wimp out. Where other guys might have manned up.
But I could also tell stories of women who were less than saintly in their dealings with me, particularly if their chief interest in me was also sexual, but they had trouble admitting that to themselves.
This does mean that I can sometimes see the man's point of view when I read relationship stories from female posters. Which means that I can't automatically dismiss the man as being a jerk. At least one time recently, I wanted to tell the woman that a problem she was experiencing in a relationship was mostly her fault, at least in principle. But I couldn't think of a way to say it without just making her feel worse.
Mostly just basing what I say on experience as opposed to some ideal standard of behavior. I sincerely hope the younger generation can do better.
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I'm terrified. Gonna go to a salon to get it done right.
Good grief! It's expensive!
What colour are you getting?
I wish I had the guts to dye my hair.... It's starting to turn white, too! Haha
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Well, I think this May explain my recent weird dating experience. I think he just wanted to have sex with me, and asked me out based on that, then thought about compatibility and realised there was nothing more to it and stopped things before we even got physical.
I still find it weird though, because we were good friends.
What element was missing. Sex, check. Getting on well, check. Things in common, check. Similar life goals, check. Other criteria, not a clue.
I suspect it's because I've got more life milestones. I've bought a house, I have a good job (not that he doesnt, but I may earn more), I own a car, I have a good credit rating, etc... I think he may want someone to grow with, rather than keep up with... I personally don't care about those things, but maybe it's an ego thing.
What more is needed? Why couldn't I have had more of a chance? Why wouldn't he give it a go and just see if things worked out? Could that be worse than dropping me like a hot potato and not being friends any more at all?
I lost my friend because of a sexual whim and I hate that.
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I'm terrified. Gonna go to a salon to get it done right.
Good grief! It's expensive!
What colour are you getting?
I wish I had the guts to dye my hair.... It's starting to turn white, too! Haha
I don't know! It's gone a strange dull brown colour as I'm greying. I'm not sure if I stay light brown with highlights or go a bit more blonde, or maybe red.
I thought I'd go for a consultation with a stylist and discuss it.
I'm 30, and although I'm in a long-term relationship, women are far more interested now than ten years ago. I'm physically fit, have a well-paying (and high prestige job) and I am at an age where men are gaining bargaining power and women are losing it. The 30s are so much better than the 20s.
To all the early 20 something guys: Hang in there! Focus on gaining experience and improving yourselves. Inexperience is a dealbreaker to many women, so lie about your inexperience in the beginning and don't focus on gaining a long-term relationship. Focus on overcoming shyness, anxiety and so on rather than any expensive PUA BS. Do not pay for prostitutes or support any cruel criminal industry like that.
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I still find it weird though, because we were good friends.
What element was missing. Sex, check. Getting on well, check. Things in common, check. Similar life goals, check. Other criteria, not a clue.
I suspect it's because I've got more life milestones. I've bought a house, I have a good job (not that he doesnt, but I may earn more), I own a car, I have a good credit rating, etc... I think he may want someone to grow with, rather than keep up with... I personally don't care about those things, but maybe it's an ego thing.
What more is needed? Why couldn't I have had more of a chance? Why wouldn't he give it a go and just see if things worked out? Could that be worse than dropping me like a hot potato and not being friends any more at all?
I lost my friend because of a sexual whim and I hate that.
Haven’t life taught you already that there’s no *real* friendship between men and women?
I still find it weird though, because we were good friends.
What element was missing. Sex, check. Getting on well, check. Things in common, check. Similar life goals, check. Other criteria, not a clue.
I suspect it's because I've got more life milestones. I've bought a house, I have a good job (not that he doesnt, but I may earn more), I own a car, I have a good credit rating, etc... I think he may want someone to grow with, rather than keep up with... I personally don't care about those things, but maybe it's an ego thing.
What more is needed? Why couldn't I have had more of a chance? Why wouldn't he give it a go and just see if things worked out? Could that be worse than dropping me like a hot potato and not being friends any more at all?
I lost my friend because of a sexual whim and I hate that.
Haven’t life taught you already that there’s no *real* friendship between men and women?
It depends. If a male coworker asks you to go out with him (without other coworkers) or if a guy you know starts doing a lot of favors for you, don't assume it's because he badly wants a female best friend.
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