Is my gf being supportive of me, or no?

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Lately I've been going through a lot of stress in my life, over some things, and I go to my gf for support, but she acts kind either nonchalant, or just really mellow or relaxed, saying don't worry, I'm making too big a deal out of, don't stress yourself out, etc.

I feel that she is thinking I make too big a deal out of things, and is not taking them seriously, when I try to get her to console, or she is being supportive and her acting like I am making too big a deal out of it is sincere, but how can I get her to get more on the same page as me and not be so relaxed, like this is nothing?

Telling someone not to worry when they are stressed is most often intended as support especially when you see someone is struggling but you aren't sure of more specific words to use in the situation.

Why are you looking to your girlfriend for emotional support? Showing signs of weakness to her is a terrible idea.

It's probably her way of trying to be supportive. My girlfriend says that sometimes when I'm really on the edge, and for me that isn't helpful at those times. I'll feel like how can you know? or like I'm not being taken seriously and downplayed. I told her how it made me feel, and she realised how someone could take her words in a way she didn't mean and felt a bit bad about it (which I didn't want either, cause it was meant well, of course).

Talk to her, it will help you understand each other better.

Me & my girlfriend rely on each other for emotional support. We have/had some of the same issues thou like depression, anxiety, & OCD. We relate & have an idea of what would of helped & not helped us. Cass is dealing with some stuff that I cant relate to thou so it's harder for me to be supportive of that than some other stuff she's dealing with.
It seems quite possible OP that your girlfriend simply cant relate to what your going through so she doesn't really know how to be supportive. I agree with SameStars that you should talk to her about it & maybe you could get her to better understand what kind of support you want.