Hello! I'm just looking for advice on how to emotionally detach myself from a friend of mine. We're not in a committed relationship, but my emotional attachment to him is getting problematic. He doesn't feel the same way about me as I do about him, which is frustrating in itself. Once I get emotionally attached to someone, it's extremely difficult for me to let him go, unless he mistreats me in some way, or decides to kick me to the curb. I'm always thinking about him, wondering where he is, what he's doing, who he's with, and it's driving me crazy! It's like I have no control over what thoughts I have about him come into my brain, mostly negative and distressing thoughts. I get downright obsessed with the guy. It's having a negative impact on my life and I'm trying desperately to find a therapist and/or self-help books about emotional detachment to get me through this. It's almost unbearable, the emotional torcher I experience day in and day out. It's only when he comes over to my apartment that I'm truly happy. And when he's not around, I'm miserable. I just really need to figure out a way to emotionally detach myself from him without having to put an end to giving him massages and sex, which I might have to do, even though I don't want to and neither does my friend. I don't want to hurt him. He already knows how I feel about him. But I don't know how much more emotional turmoil I can take. It seems like each time he comes over, my feelings for him get stronger. Now they're stronger than ever. So if there are any suggestions or advice that someone can give me, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks!
15 Mar 2019, 3:38 pm
