Dating difficulties for aspie who are expats

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Lana_sendai
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13 Apr 2019, 11:09 am

What advice would you give to people on the spectrum who live and work abroad such as in Africa, Asia, South America......

Its really difficult to start to date or meet friends who are on the spectrum.....I have relationship before with people who are not on the spectrum and I have realised (this is in my case other people might think differently) that dating people on the spectrum would be better as we could understand one another on a more deeper level.

I might be wrong....



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13 Apr 2019, 11:25 am

Just make your boundaries known to your date as soon as you both seem interested in each other. Don’t wait till later.

Are you familiar with Louis, Mary, and Richard Leakey?



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13 Apr 2019, 11:53 am

Its not necessarily about the boundaries more about finding forums groups for people on the spectrum to meet and socialise in which ever continent you are based as an expat.....


I don't the people you mentioned...can you elaborate?



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13 Apr 2019, 11:54 am

Its not necessarily about the boundaries more about finding forums groups for people on the spectrum to meet and socialise in which ever continent you are based as an expat.....

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I don't know the people you mentioned...can you elaborate?



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13 Apr 2019, 11:57 am

They were all famous anthropologists. Mary was married to Louis, and Richard was their son.

They were famous for finding “Handy Man” and “Lucy.” Both were early people who lived like 2-3 million years ago.

Richard Leakey was also involved in Kenyan politics after its independence from England.



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13 Apr 2019, 11:59 am

You should look in expat websites. Or especially expats in Nairobi websites. Or perhaps make comments in blogs created by expats in Nairobi, so you can communicate with the blogger.



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13 Apr 2019, 3:00 pm

In fact there's a social advantage of being an expat because they will associate your social difficulties to you being a foreigner rather than to something else.



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14 Apr 2019, 1:20 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Richard Leakey was also involved in Kenyan politics after its independence from England.

You left out Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland, kraftie. I'm not letting you any slack, you knew better.



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14 Apr 2019, 6:27 pm

You got me there :)