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So I changed my job and income and over night I’m getting matches like crazy.

So it never had anything to do with my personality. Just that I was min wage.

This is because it’s an online dating site. People tend to have superficial standards on them—because you only see people’s pictures.

There are people who are superficial—yes there are—but there are other people who have depth.

This reminds me of an experiment that two women I knew made. They created a fake account for one Andrea Dworkin ( a famous radical feminist). The profile said that she was a dental student, they included a lot of ridiculous stuff in the profile but none of it deterred the steady stream of replies from unwitting guys.
(I realise that their experiment was done for kicks and yours was a controlled experiment)

Sorry the world is mostly "shallow". It bothers me also.

If you are looking for a woman who only dates men who earn above minimum wage, then you've just attracted them. If not, why would you want to? (Yes, I know this was a test.)

My BFF has been telling me for years that people don't think like me (honest, compassionate, logical) and I didn't understand. How could they not? I'm beginning to understand.

I married a man who makes less than minimum wage and our relationship works. Albeit, I didn't find him online, I found him at a Special Interest of mine, but online dating wasn't a thing back then.

Warning "it worked for a friend" story. Which can be really annoying when something is generally not working for you. Because who knows what will work for you. But by golly something will. So if you dislike these stories, then please skip. My favorite online matchup was a schoolmate who got no hits whatsoever with his "real" picture (it was plainly who he was). He could have "dolled" himself up or whatever, but that is not who he is. So he went to shutdown his profile (not the correct mechanism for him)... a there was a single message. A photographer... "your picture is awful, I could take a better one...". They are happily married.

I'm hoping my job search goes like this. I imagine I am going to have a lot of bad fits (already two), but am hoping the one good match is out there.... and I will be myself to find it... (and it's scary as heck). Imagine how many interviews I could line up if I merely changed the name on my work resume? And I can imagine some hiring managers unconsciously trashing my resume when they pick up on my honesty and devotion to quality (= trouble in many non-inclusive workplaces). Shallow sucks.

I wish I could help.

I wish I could help, too.

Sly is a normal-looking guy. A big lug, teddy bear sort of guy.

I see people living on the streets in relationships but that’s generally because those people are so used to living in their situation that they just accept whatever they can get.

I apparently only qualify for women who are “churchy” in that they dress extremely modest, style their hair in the bouffant style, and fear everything that would make them appear “unwomanly”. I don’t mesh with these kind of women at all despite pressuring from my parents and grandmother.

Do you have a good picture and description that would appeal to NT women?

Sorry you're having no success with suitable women, Sly. You need someone with the personality and outlook of SharonB - someone really caring who has er priorities right - but such women are unfortunately few and far between and she's already taken! Ideally you need someone who's on the spectrum as they are more interested in their special interests than how much they, or a potential partner, have in the bank.

Perhaps your search will be rewarded when you're least expecting it.