Can someone Love a person like you real love
dragonsanddemons
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Have you ever had any close friends?
As for "true romantic love," different people have very different ideas on what that even is, in the first place.
I have had a few close friends, typically one at a time, but the affection I feel for them is more along the lines of what I feel for my dog or my parents. I don't think I've ever felt a different kind of affection for anyone, is why I don't think I've ever felt romantic love.
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Yet in my new wildness and freedom I almost welcome the bitterness of alienage. For although nepenthe has calmed me, I know always that I am an outsider; a stranger in this century and among those who are still men.
-H. P. Lovecraft, "The Outsider"
i think people just stuck around cause they could use me for free food or a ride in my car. i have no idea how i am empathy-wise.
I understand hope you can turn things around.
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You can think you are just an observer but your unbenounced actions say otherwise you are always a participant in some form
Who knows maybe you are looking for the wrong kind of men as I often found myself looking for the wrong type of woman
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You can think you are just an observer but your unbenounced actions say otherwise you are always a participant in some form
I don’t want to sound harsh but.... at age 55, you should have already realized by now the answer; I am in the same boat.
Acceptance alone is difficult. It's a process
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You can think you are just an observer but your unbenounced actions say otherwise you are always a participant in some form
If you Google "Active Listening," you might find some worthwhile tutorials to help you figure out how to ask those questions.
Your right I'll look into it. I often find myself ethier listening or talking its hard to do both
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You can think you are just an observer but your unbenounced actions say otherwise you are always a participant in some form
Have you ever had any close friends?
As for "true romantic love," different people have very different ideas on what that even is, in the first place.
I have had a few close friends, typically one at a time, but the affection I feel for them is more along the lines of what I feel for my dog or my parents. I don't think I've ever felt a different kind of affection for anyone, is why I don't think I've ever felt romantic love.
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You can think you are just an observer but your unbenounced actions say otherwise you are always a participant in some form
My mom systematically used conditional love on me.
My dad was most of the time mentally at work.
My first attempts at relationships were mutually toxic.
I had no idea honest love even existed when I met my now-husband. I read about it but never before experienced it from another human being. It was like a whole new world.
Neither of us is a "warm" person but there are other ways of showing care for each other. We're together since 2004 and - there is no "and they lived happily ever after", life is full of challenges and disappointments but we face them together and this feels the most natural way of us being.
Some neurodiverse marriages I know are more like teams plus sex. Other are deeply emotional. I think Mona is right about different ideas of romantic love for different people, the point is to find someone with compatibile concept to yours.
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