Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?

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21 May 2020, 3:24 am

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Also, you don't love somebody after a few weeks so if it's a dealbreaker at that point bfd, life goes on.


^^ this some couples fall head over heels after a week.


Since when was infatuation love? :?


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21 May 2020, 3:31 am

funeralxempire wrote:
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Also, you don't love somebody after a few weeks so if it's a dealbreaker at that point bfd, life goes on.


^^ this some couples fall head over heels after a week.


Since when was infatuation love? :?


Not a believer in love at first sight?



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21 May 2020, 3:59 am

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Also, you don't love somebody after a few weeks so if it's a dealbreaker at that point bfd, life goes on.


^^ this some couples fall head over heels after a week.


Since when was infatuation love? :?


Not a believer in love at first sight?


I haven't had much luck with crushes working out and the closest thing I've experienced to love at first sight ended with both parties attempting suicide and unfortunately my dedication to plausible deniability basically meant I had no reasonable chance of success in hindsight.

And even that for the most part was a mix of already very much liking speaking to her, knowing our kinks were aligned and thinking she looked way better in person the first time we met (cuz very few people look that good).

Now if you excuse me I think I have something in my eye... and the other one...
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21 May 2020, 10:15 am

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Now if you excuse me I think I have something in my eye... and the other one...
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It's coronavirus.



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21 May 2020, 10:18 am

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I dont know if I’d have sex if I was in a relationship. So I’m not just after sex.


Unless you're dating an AIDS patient, that's gonna be a dealbreaker for them even if it's not for you.

If they love me they’d be patient and understanding.


Those things aren't limitless, everyone eventually makes a CBA. I can speak from experience, I've missed out on opportunities both for hook-ups and for things that might have become more serious relationships by not acting on initiative when I first thought it might be possible. People get bored and frustrated and eventually seek more options if they feel they've been left hanging or if they feel they're being strung along.

Yes, they should be patient and understanding within reason but not beyond that. That's an unreasonable expectation.


There's plenty of religious people who don't do premarital sex; so it's not that unreasonable for those.



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21 May 2020, 7:35 pm

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I’ll never get a tattoo.....anywhere.



If you want to be buried in a Jewish Cemetary. :wink:

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I’m defective, and I have been working for 40 years. People know I’m defective, too.


We all know.
I am defective, using an NT definition, also. :wink:

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Luck DOES have something to do with it.


Absolutely.

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If you don’t clean your room, the mice will have a field day.


Well, the "field" mice will. :mrgreen:


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21 May 2020, 7:41 pm

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I live in a defective country.

I am probably living in the poorest country on this forum.


You also got that, err, face.

Seriously dood,
You need to consult with a cosmetic surgeon. <looks at avart>
Not even a mother could luv that. 8O


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21 May 2020, 7:57 pm

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I’m defective subhuman. There’s no future for me. I’m unlovable


Brother!
We can be unluveable together. :wink:

Not everyone finds a significant other.
Not everyone wants to.
From my perspective, it is a damned good thing.
But if you have an emotional yearning for one, but can't achieve you "desire", perhaps it is time for you to invest in yourself and your personal independence.
Engage in metacognition and determine why you feel the way you do.
Are you simply being driven by childhood indoctrination and/or social/parental expectation?

Critical thinking means analysing your personal situation, considering the realistic options and chose from those. <shrug>
Arbitrary NT social parameters in achieving "The Dream" is a form of brainwashing.
Instinctual needs need to be addressed intelligently.

Check out the "Serenity Prayer", again.
Its wisdom goes beyond the religious context.

Quote:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer


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21 May 2020, 8:05 pm

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I am probably live in the poorest country on this forum.


I grew up in the system with violence extreme poverty - the kind where you go hungry - in a first world country. It took me a while to adjust to people who own expensive electronics and other luxuries describing themselves as "very poor". Times changed I guess.


He has been served. 8)

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I am probably living in the poorest country on this forum.


I grew up in the system with violence extreme poverty - the kind where you go hungry - in a first world country. It took me a while to adjust to people who own expensive electronics and other luxuries describing themselves as "very poor". Times changed I guess.

That doesn't make my statement any less true.

If your country is really poor, then you personally make quite a good money there, based on what you once confessed on WP.
The money you mentioned then would make you a comfortable life with a family in my city.


I think "The_Face_of_Boo" has made a boo boo in trying to defend his point, here. :mrgreen:


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21 May 2020, 8:17 pm

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There’s nothing I can fix that will help.
I can’t and won’t ever work a real job or even full time.
I’m not toxic, society is toxic.


That's the spirit! :mrgreen:


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22 May 2020, 10:04 am

Pepe wrote:
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I live in a defective country.

I am probably living in the poorest country on this forum.


You also got that, err, face.

Seriously dood,
You need to consult with a cosmetic surgeon. <looks at avart>
Not even a mother could luv that. 8O



At least I don’t smell like fart.



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22 May 2020, 1:37 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
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I live in a defective country.

I am probably living in the poorest country on this forum.


You also got that, err, face.

Seriously dood,
You need to consult with a cosmetic surgeon. <looks at avart>
Not even a mother could luv that. 8O



At least I don’t smell like fart.


If anyone’s farts smell like skunk spray, I think they need to see a doctor. Although some people think skunk spray smells like coffee, apparently.


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22 May 2020, 2:14 pm

Skunk spray smells to me like someone set fire to a huge piece of moldy ginger-root.

Anyway, back on topic...

It seems that some put a great deal of importance on 'luck', while others put a great deal of importance on "personal development".  Mine is the latter belief.


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22 May 2020, 5:12 pm

Skunk spray smells like rotten spaghetti sauce.



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22 May 2020, 5:19 pm

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Skunk spray smells like rotten spaghetti sauce.


Remind me not to have spaghetti at Kraftie's house. :lol:


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22 May 2020, 5:55 pm

cyberdad wrote:
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but I really don’t think there’s such a huge disparity between men and women who aren’t attractive trying to get a deeper relationship as seems to be implied (or in some places, outright stated) by this thread.


There are some disparities that are worth mentioning. The first is that societal expectations is for the male to approach the woman. So in the bar/coffee shop example an unattractive woman merely has sit by herself and will still be approached by men. She does not have to make an effort and she gets to choose if she wants to interact.
An unattractive man has to overcome social anxiety and the prospect of rejection in approaching any woman.

The second relates to mental health. Research suggests that men do worse physically and mentally living single, whereas women who have friends do better alone. This means most single women aren't as desperate for a "deep" relationship with a male as much as their male counterpart.

I realise you are correct that the margin of difference become less important as women become "more unattractive" and it doesn't invalidate their own struggles in finding a soulmate/true love.


That last part. I see many times that men that want to talk about or vent on how they are struggling in dating, both women and other men assume that he is invalidating the other gender's experience. Which is not true and is not fair to judge.