Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?

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25 May 2020, 6:59 am

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I’ve been attracted to tall women.

I’m just under 5 foot 5.

I’ve been scorned by some women because of my height. But most women really don’t mind my height.

Probably half the women on the train every day are taller than me.


I'm pretty sure 5'5" is roughly average height for American women, so that sounds about right.

I'm sure some people care more than others. Some people are more attached to certain traits than others and some people are more/less secure about their potential to find a partner and therefore more/less picky.


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25 May 2020, 7:11 am

The average is 5 foot 4. But, maybe in NYC, it’s a bit higher.

Yep. In essence, people are people and vary in their responses to what they encounter.

When I’m intimate with a woman, I have found that height really doesn’t matter.



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25 May 2020, 7:16 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I’ve been attracted to tall women.

I’m just under 5 foot 5.

I’ve been scorned by some women because of my height. But most women really don’t mind my height.

Probably half the women on the train every day are taller than me.


Most women like Hobbits. :mrgreen:

BTW,
Is "scorn" really the right word? :scratch:
If it is, NY women are pretty darn scary. 8O
I would have thought "disinterest" might have been more appropriate. :wink:

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scorn
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past tense: scorned; past participle: scorned

feel or express contempt or disdain for.
"the minister scorned Labour's attempt to woo voters"
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Similar:
deride

be contemptuous about
hold in contempt
treat with contempt
pour/heap scorn on
be scornful about
look down on
look down one's nose at
disdain
curl one's lip at
mock
scoff at
sneer at
sniff at
jeer at
laugh at
laugh out of court
disparage
slight
dismiss
cock a snook at
spit in the eye/face of
spit on
thumb one's nose at
turn one's nose up at
blow raspberries at
give the Bronx cheer to
contemn
misprize
scout
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piss on/over
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Opposite:
admire
respect

reject (something) in a contemptuous way.
"a letter scorning his offer of intimacy"


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25 May 2020, 7:20 am

I’ve been actively scorned because of my height.



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25 May 2020, 7:42 am

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I’ve been actively scorned because of my height.


Women can be rat-bags also. Meh. :shrug:


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25 May 2020, 8:03 am

When I was a kid, a girl of Polish descent at school once said 'hi' to me. The butterflies was here.

But to be frank, I never tried to have a romantic or sexual relationship with another person.

I just wait and see.



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25 May 2020, 8:14 am

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Yes, you're wrong. You have no idea what it's like to be a woman and having society tell you to be a way that you can't be.

You don't have Aunts asking, "have you found a boyfriend YET?" In your 30s like you're failling to meet a goal in normal human life.

You don't have older women telling you that, "you're just too independent", or "if you are a loving person you will draw love to you".


I wouldn't base my worth on a fracked up NT social value system.
They are less evolved than us, in some/many ways.
And they are the problem, not us, as Tony Attwood would say. :wink:

Look on the bright side.
We all end up in the same place, eventually, no matter how well people fit in an arbitrary NT social structure. :mrgreen:


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25 May 2020, 9:52 am

Height is a dealbreaker for many women, even more than any aspie trait.

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25 May 2020, 10:36 am

I know short men, tall men thin and fat all of whom are in a relationship. A guy I nearly married who is of Egyptian Jewish descent is short, I fell for his caring personality and intelligence during the Yom Kippur war. I have also loved tall guys. The guy I ultimately married is short (albeit an a$$hole) so it has never been an issue with me. I have had students who have amazing success with women, who are very short. It's all about character. I don't know why some of you think all women are shallow bimbos. The problem lies in dating apps where everything is a meat market or a shopping catalogue, it's not your fault, it's the gross culture we have to live in.


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25 May 2020, 10:40 am

I am interested to know how many of you Aspie guys who are married to NT women have wives who are strong-minded caretakers, nurses, teachers, social workers? How many to intellectual, scientific types?


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25 May 2020, 11:24 am

Teach51 wrote:
I am interested to know how many of you Aspie guys who are married to NT women have wives who are strong-minded caretakers, nurses, teachers, social workers? How many to intellectual, scientific types?
Does being married to a pastor count?


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25 May 2020, 11:48 am

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Teach51 wrote:
I am interested to know how many of you Aspie guys who are married to NT women have wives who are strong-minded caretakers, nurses, teachers, social workers? How many to intellectual, scientific types?
Does being married to a pastor count?


Everything counts! I think that she qualifies as a strong-minded "caretaking" type of woman, no? How wonderful!


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25 May 2020, 12:44 pm

Teach51 wrote:
I am interested to know how many of you Aspie guys who are married to NT women have wives who are strong-minded caretakers, nurses, teachers, social workers? How many to intellectual, scientific types?

Mrs K is a pastors daughter, and a self-employed tradeswoman.
She worked in a dementia ward years ago, but that was before I met her.
I’m pretty sure she has the intelligence to have been a scientist (biology most likely), but was never encouraged academically as a child: something she now regrets not rebelling against.



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25 May 2020, 1:23 pm

So....Krafties' wife is a nurse, I am a nurse and a teacher and I like aspie men also. So not all women dislike aspies. Spiritual, empathetic and good women love aspies.


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25 May 2020, 2:07 pm

My two last exes were one is nurse and the other a massage therapist. Most of my dates were: nurses, accountants, teachers and civil/architect engineers..etc

I don't think it means anything though, these are simply common occupations among women.



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25 May 2020, 2:13 pm

I've been fighting with myself as to whether to say anything in this thread, I think the OP made a bit of a mistake in self-extrapolating this widely and I think anyone who'd say that he could have it all (or that anyone could) if he just 'got it together' would be making an equal and opposite mistake.

Lets just say in my life experience I've seen such a wide divergence in how people get treated for non-commonsensical reasons that I don't think one person's anecdote would undo another's. That leaves me in a quandary for what do with or for people who constantly complain that they can't find a partner. My advice would probably be a bit too cold - ie. I'd be inclined to tell them what I see to be the truth, ie. that much like physics, chemistry and medicine don't care much about Judao-Christian, Greek, or secular humanist values this is an example of where human beings fall into far more pragmatic realities, much more akin to being as irresistible as physics, and where the veneer of our humanity voids out by necessity. It's an event horizon that cultural values at best penetrate by accident or convenience and get deflected back out the moment they're found to be inconvenient.

I think part of why many people have trouble speaking openly about it from that perspective is that, like ideas of absolute determinism, the idea that our identities are thin veneers on top of something else that may have very different priorities which we can't do a whole lot about is a scary thought. I do think there's some benefit to at least integrating with that side of one's self in that you can get a bit better of a moral negotiation hashed out (in Freudian terms humanizing the unconscious) and that's perhaps the silver-lining of being opened to see it that way and work from that assumption.


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