Mothmanda wrote:
Hi, 19F here. My boyfriend and I are both on the spectrum, but while I am very introverted and aloof and need a lot of space, he is extremely affectionate and way too sentimental.
In the early stages of our relationship, I enjoyed how he wore his heart on his sleeve and was so genuine and playful and lovely. But he goes on these long-winded speeches about how much he loves me, gives really long apologies, hyperfixates on sex and is just super sappy. It's starting to nauseate me. He sends me letters every day.
I am not a cold, uncaring person, but it takes me much longer to express and reciprocate affection than most people, and I cannot keep with this anymore. He's a sweet person but I feel irritated every time we talk, even after the millions of conversations we've had about toning it down and respecting emotional boundaries. Should I break up with him? I don't know what to do.
Maybe you should tell him you need to have your space for a while to clear your head space a little as it seems that he maybe failing to understand that. That way, you should be able to have a clear picture if you love the guy or not?
You must make that clear for him and straightforward. This will obviously hurt him and may break his heart but you must explain your reasons to him. Of course you can still be friends with him and try put his mind at ease, but it won't be easy for sure.
Also, you both are young and have so much more to experience.
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