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09 Sep 2020, 9:05 am

I don't know your situation Jamesy, whether you have your own place and income. If those things are in place, there's no reason why things shouldn't improve.



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09 Sep 2020, 6:32 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.





what do you mean lumped up from boxing?


I meant do you have permanent facial injuries from boxing? This can make you look older still.



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09 Sep 2020, 6:35 pm

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I’ve done my own research. It’s called living life. And I’ve concluded that men often are seen as quite attractive when they have a little grey in their hair.


Yes sir!! :wink:



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09 Sep 2020, 6:39 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.





what do you mean lumped up from boxing?


I meant do you have permanent facial injuries from boxing? This can make you look older still.



I have got a broken/bent nose with a bump on the bridge from boxing.

I think that’s the only facial injury I have



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09 Sep 2020, 6:59 pm

I barely even dated until I was 25. Most people get better with time!



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09 Sep 2020, 7:00 pm

Jamesy wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.





what do you mean lumped up from boxing?


I meant do you have permanent facial injuries from boxing? This can make you look older still.



I have got a broken/bent nose with a bump on the bridge from boxing.

I think that’s the only facial injury I have


That's the "signature" of the boxer.



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09 Sep 2020, 7:05 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.





what do you mean lumped up from boxing?


I meant do you have permanent facial injuries from boxing? This can make you look older still.



I have got a broken/bent nose with a bump on the bridge from boxing.

I think that’s the only facial injury I have


That's the "signature" of the boxer.




Yeah not attractive I know



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09 Sep 2020, 7:13 pm

Galaxy is complimenting you, James :)



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09 Sep 2020, 7:15 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Galaxy is complimenting you, James :)



My friends are negative about my looks though. They rarely compliment me.



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09 Sep 2020, 9:12 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Galaxy is complimenting you, James :)

My friends are negative about my looks though. They rarely compliment me.
In your friends' defense, men seldom directly compliment each other on looks. My friend, the player, who I mentioned earlier, did say I look "fine" or "OK", but he was just being nice. I knew his words were meaningless, whenever I saw him hook up with a girl he just met, often seeing the whole progression, from a greeting hug to them going in the bedroom, unfold right in front of me. It was clear as day that I was an ugly, disgusting piece of garbage, when I remained a virgin until age 22, and lost it to an escort.



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09 Sep 2020, 10:43 pm

I had a picture at age 24 once....but I lost it.



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09 Sep 2020, 11:03 pm

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I had a picture at age 24 once....but I lost it.
I destroyed nearly all my pictures from before age 25, and most of the surviving ones are at my parents' house.



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10 Sep 2020, 12:42 am

Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?

does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?


I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.


YES!! !

I got a few dates and had like 2-5 opportunities to have sex in my twenties.. after 30 it wound down to zero.. in their 20s people bounce around looking for random sex partners and are OK having just a few dates for fun.. but after 20 people only want to go out with people who 'are serious' which means like 'the final one' I guess.. also many of the women have children, are married, looking to settle down with someone who has a good job and is attractive to them personality wise.. if you are an aspie who has never had a gf at 35, compared to them when they have had a million dates tens of boyfriends, husband and had sex more times than you went to the movie theater.. for them it is like dating a boring child with disabilities who will never grow up..



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10 Sep 2020, 12:46 am

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my friend's girl was on cloud nine, while mine looked like she was getting a flu shot. I never went clubbing with him again.


that hurts! i've been there.. I've seen girls look happy and giddy just having a black guy standing behind them grinding.. whereas I always got confused how to grind girls and they would lose interest with me quickly like they got a rotten egg on their plate



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10 Sep 2020, 12:50 am

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might be time to hang up your gigolo suit.
it sucks to hang up your suit never having had much of a chance to use it, but wanting to.. or having chances, but being too un-worldly and uncomfortable to take advantage of them.. maybe those religious 'no sex before marriage' have a point that you can't have it all, and just better prepare yourself to be content with just what you have?



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10 Sep 2020, 2:37 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.


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