Kitty4670 wrote:
On Coffee Meets Bagel, there this man that likes me, we are talking in the app chat room, I met him almost 4 days ago, he sooooo cute, I don’t think it will work out, he is 34, I’m 50' but I look like I’m still in my 30s. It seems wrong that I’m attracted to men that are 30 - 35.
Hopefully your budding relationship is based on more than just physical attraction? How well it will work out will depend on your and his specific personalities, commonalities, personal habits, etc. I see no reason to assume it won't work merely because of his age (although there could be a problem if he is too emotionally immature).
Almost all of my relationships have been with people who were either significantly older or significantly younger than myself. My current relationship is with a man 11 years younger than me. (We met 12 years ago and have been living together for almost 8 years.) I didn't specifically seek out such relationships, but I've always considered the age of my partner to be a relatively minor matter compared to just finding someone I could relate to and who could relate to me.
Also, I remember reading in several places (which I can't find right now, alas) that autistic people are more likely than NT's to have both friendships and romantic relationships with people far apart from them in age.
As long as your partners are of legal age, I see nothing wrong here.
Why do you feel that it's "wrong" for you to be attracted to younger men?
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