Imagining that this would happen on my first date!

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I could just imagine when meeting my date for the first I would be a shivering nervous wreck. My heart would start beating fast and I sweat and stutter.

My question is though why might AS cause you to react this way in that type of situation. I am on medication to treat my anxiety by the way.

Us Aspies tend to have a bad history of not fitting in with others & problems getting along with others. We sometimes majorly struggle to get relationships. We also tend to have a need for routine & predictability. It makes sense that we would have anxiety when going on a date. Even NTs can feel nervous when dating so having Aspergers could make it a lot worse. Even the band Blink 182 touched on anxiety about dating in their song First Date

Do you like my stupid hair?
Would you guess that I didn't know what to wear?
I'm just scared of what you think
You make me nervous so I really can't eat

Social anxiety is the cause. Meds will stop all the physical symptoms. You still may feel a slight apprehension in your mind but a first meeting will actually be do-able without all the physical discomforts. I was on Lexapro years ago but it made me gain too much weight. Food tasted really good to me and I ate all the time. The best thing about the med was that I was able to complain when I needed to. House cleaning got done. It was a good experience except for the weight gain. I had to be weaned off. Haven't been on any meds since.

Ive never had any issues when dating other aspies. Nts on the other hand.....