Most men here cant get women because they lack confidence

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I think both of the extremes are founded in one's insecurity about themself.
The golden mean is overcoming this insecurity and being able to acknowledge both the good and the bad (and the ugly ) about oneself.

When I was single people very often assumed that I had low self-esteem but I actually did have some self-confidence & had low-esteem of others. I knew I had aLOT more than my fair share of flaws & issues but I also knew I had some strong points too. However I knew from experience that lots of others would NOT give me a real chance to prove myself to them. I was very lonely & desperate for a relationship but I sought out women that were also lonely & desperate & who had self-confidence issues. My personality within a relationship is kinda opposite of the stereotypical Aspie guy. I don't need or want a ton of space & alone time within a romantic relationship. One of my biggest relationship strengths is being supportive of others who have issues. I'm the kinda person that others would turn to when they were having a bad day. Sometimes those types of people can be more accepting, understanding, & supportive of someone who has issues than independent people are. That approach eventually worked out for me but I was single & looking for 8 years straight. I tried putting myself out there in various ways & I did not limit my search to women who were dependent & had issues. I did my best to improve my life situation as well but having various multiple physical & mental disabilities majorly limits me with employment & some aspects of independent living. My area had very little supports & services for people who were disabled & trying to better themselves. I NEVER expected a woman to magically fix me & my situation or to take care of me like lots of others assumed I did. I was wanting someone I could be myself with & spend time with. I wanted someone I could turn to when I was having a bad day & needed a distraction or to talk things over with. I very well knew that change had to come from within & you can only help someone who wants to help themselves. I just needed a rock I could turn to that would help motivate me to keep trying.

Honestly the people on WP seem quite dense. How the hell did a simple post about being confident and sure of oneself as an attractive quality get dumped on as some outdated sexist, alpha male chauvinistic manifesto, with Greek alphabet garbage I never implied, being assuming I'm telling men how to act, etc.

Literally the post was as simple as the people always complaining about not getting women to like them are repulsing them with insecurity and desperation. Literally thats it. How such a simple and true statement got butchered and misconstrued by the cantankerous and butthurt on this website makes me weep for the reading comprehension on this forum.

I don't think you know us man.

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It's more like salad is new to the idea of not typecasting people. I don't feel the need to get ahead by acting any one certain way.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos