Minervx_2 wrote:
I've had self-esteem issues for years. I used to think I was horribly ugly, but over the past few years I've realized that I actually am handsome.
Throughout my teens and 20's, I thought I was single because of my looks, when in reality it was because I was:
1) Socially awkward
2) Immature
3) Reclusive/ staying inside and missing lots of opportunities to meet people
4) Negative and pessimistic
5) Lacking the courage to talk to people I was interested in
It's easy to blame the things we don't have control over (i.e. looks), but instead, it's better to pay attention to the things we do have control over.
I used to feel the same way. I’ve been single for seven years after being in four relationships (not at the same time) and thought it was due to the fact I’m bigger, have curly brown hair and I’m not an influencer. Then I found out lots of guys like girls my size and don’t think curly hair is manly. It’s really good you realized that you’re not ugly.
There are some physical aspects we can’t control. We can either pity ourselves or move on and be our best self. I’m single because I’m different than the women where I live. I have nothing in common with any of the guys!
tl;dr: You are correct and I went through a very similar thing.
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“There’s a lesson that we learn
In the pages that we burn
It’s written in the ashes of the fire below”
-Down, The Birthday Massacre