Substantially_Abstract wrote:
I guess, some people are more comfortable than others with staying friends after breaking up... Like, it does take a certain amount of strength for both sides to 1. Tell each other what exactly was not working out, and acknowledge that, and 2. Battle their leftover feelings, and accept the new status of their ex being a friend.
Personally I've almost always remained friends with exes.
Also, most of my breakups have been mutual -- not one person "dumping" the other, but a mutual recognition of incompatibilities.
Also, when I've gotten into a romantic relationship with someone, one of the things I've wanted to know about the person, from the beginning of the relationship, is whether they are the kind of person who tends to remain friends with exes. In my case, I specifically
wanted my partner to be the kind of person who can remain friends with exes. That way, I could rest secure in the knowledge that, even if we turn out not to be compatible enough for a lasting intimate relationship, we can still be part of each other's support network, and thus the effort we have put into the relationship will not be totally in vain.
I kind of feel the same. If I don't know what my exes are up to it makes me curious and wanting to know more than if I