Should I introduce my gf to my parents in this case?

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My birthday is coming up and my family likes to do a gathering for it every year. However, me and my gf have been dating for almost three months now, so I wonder if she expects to be introduced and be brought to such a gathering? What do you think?

It's just that my parents were really judgmental about your age difference once they asked me my gfs age and I told them she was 21 which is 16 years younger than me. The disagreement got kind of heated, so I wonder if I should invite her to come along at this point?

Or would that be a good idea still, relationship points wise, and will make me look secure about it more? What do you think?

First of all, please don’t take my opinion to the bank. It might be terrible advice.

I will say, if I was the girlfriend in this scenario, I would be anxious about potential future in-laws who have cast judgment without even meeting me.

I’m not saying, “don’t invite your girlfriend.” But I think it might be a good idea to maybe celebrate your birthday separately with her this year.

By this time next year, your parents may warm up to your relationship, having had time to see evidence of stability. Or you might pick a quieter time for the introduction. It could be overwhelming to include a daunting introduction during a gathering with several people she hasn’t met. If I was the girlfriend.

However, it’s my understanding that I’m not like other girls.

In general, I think clear communication is best. Perhaps consider discussing your concern with your girlfriend and see if she has any insight for you regarding her expectations and/or comfort zone.

Best of luck!

Do not rush it. Three months is still early in a relationship, and considering their attitude toward her and your relationship with her, it would be better to wait until you have a longer and presumably stronger history. They may either calm down about the age difference or not, but you know [i][/i] right now they're upset.

There's no way, IMO, that you should be dragging her into the minefield they've created.

Yes,you can,be brave.

Consider all options if such situations ever happen.

Well my Mom seems to have more of a problem with than my dad, but is she being perhaps a bit hypocritical in the sense, that she was born from parents who were 18 years apart in their relationship? Why is she thinking is questionable of me, when her parents, did the same thing?