I don't care for "Love on the Spectrum"

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18 Jul 2022, 1:58 pm

Because Rodger had serious psychological problems----that's why.

He sort of felt "entitled," somehow, in his delusional mind.



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18 Jul 2022, 2:06 pm

But if that's the case people should identify Roger's motives as delusion, rather than not being competent in getting sex.



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18 Jul 2022, 2:08 pm

I believe his motivation was that HE felt entitled to have women come up to him, and women weren't coming up to him, thus making him angry and frustrated. His view of human relations was deluded.

In his warped mind, he felt he was a failure because women weren't coming up to him.



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18 Jul 2022, 3:53 pm

Oh I see. Well that's surprising of him since women making the first moves is more feminist, yet he he seemed more anti-feminist.



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18 Jul 2022, 7:20 pm

He believed he shouldn’t have to make the initiative. He felt entitled.



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19 Jul 2022, 12:16 am

I wouldn't watch it. I don't like shows that put us in a negative light. How about love at war, where people with more military minds go on blind dates. I'm sure that Love on Pot with the same idea but with hippies would be a real smash. :roll:


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19 Jul 2022, 12:33 pm

Elliot Rodger wasn’t a bad looking guy. In fact, for some women, he might even be considered good looking.

Elliot wasn’t an incel because of his looks, he was an incel because of severe mental health and psychological problems. He was a classic mentalcel


Living in the California party environment didn’t help. He grew up in a society that heavily promoted sex and hookup culture and it was considered “weird and abnormal” to still be a virgin at 20, so that obviously gave him some distress. If society tells you that you should be a certain way, then it can make some people left out if they don’t live up to expectations. If the media portrays college life as this huge sex party where everyone’s getting laid or finding someone, that can cause quite the distress for some lonely and vulnerable people.

So for that reason, Elliot may have actually benefited from growing up in a more sexually conservative culture. He’d still be a weirdo with some mental health difficulties but this intense pressure to get laid due to societal pressure may have not been as strong.

California, with it materialistic and hedonistic culture, wasn’t a good place for Elliot to thrive.



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19 Jul 2022, 2:03 pm

Well when it comes to getting laid or even getting dates, how much percentage of it is looks compared to personality?

For example, when I have seen photos of incel men online, they look like the just got out if bed to am extent.

You never see photos of an incel throwing a suit jacket over his shoulder, with his hair nicely done.



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19 Jul 2022, 3:19 pm

ironpony wrote:
Well when it comes to getting laid or even getting dates, how much percentage of it is looks compared to personality?



It really depends on the location and demographic of women you're going after, I truly believe that.

If you're going after super hot 19 year old sorority girls at a nightclub for example, then looks are 100% the most important factor, and your personality and character hardly means anything. Your "personality" is how much game you can spit to convince a woman to sleep with you.

On Tinder, it's likely the same way. Young super attractive women who aren't looking for anything serious, are probably much more focused on looks and your amount of "game" rather than your overall character.



Generally speaking, the older you get, women start to care less about looks and more about character and compatibility. Once a woman starts looking for a husband, she's going to care much more about inner qualities, then just the super hot guy who's all flash but no substance.

That's why the traditionally unattractive guy BUT has a good personality AND good financial potential, has the potential to be more romantically successful in his 30s rather than his 20s.



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19 Jul 2022, 3:37 pm

That makes sense. It seems that may have happened to me to an extent in my 30s. However, should perhaps school teach this to guys in their teens that women will likely be more attracted to them in 30s if they do well, and not to have so much angst and sexual pressure in their teens and 20s?



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21 Jul 2022, 5:11 pm

A show. Made by a mainstream company for a mainstream media. About Autism and love. Hell no.

Just look at Drive to Survive, that insult from Netflix, for the F1 fans. All BS, no truth, all deformed and made for the show, deforming the reality and making drama out of everything, even Verstappen gave Netflix the middle finger for their s**t show. Same with this. I won't even bother to look at the cover of the thing.

Everythig on TV is rotten. Hell, even the history channel talks about aliens now, if you want quality documentaries and such, seems like YouTube is a good place to start (but not the only one), as some YouTubers do a far better job than manistream media companies.

Also, thinking about it, most of the audience is going to be NTs, autistics are going to be not only a minority, but a quiet one. And you are doing a TV show, that is, for the money, of course you want drama and stuff that aligns with the NT mind, screw the reality about autistics, thats kinda boring.

Hell no.



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22 Jul 2022, 1:42 pm

You’re far from alone in that.



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05 Mar 2023, 4:12 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
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Blind dates can work if the pair have something in common. The big issue remains that too many people are stuck in the belief that just having Autism in common is enough. I understand that "Love on the Spectrum" is just a television show, but unfortunately we remain a tiny minority of the population as a whole. For millions if not billions, movies and shows like that are their only exposure to a person on the Spectrum. Shows like this reinforce the false notions that ALL people with Autism are children in adult bodies, that we are generally poorly educated, and that we always do best when we stay with "our own kind."

I am often asked if I would date a woman on the Spectrum. My answer is of course, "yes"......provided that Autism is not what defines the relationship. That Autism is where our similarities begin and end. I am ALWAYS appalled when I hear people on the Spectrum define Autism or people who are LGBTQ define their sexual orientation as "the only thing they have." As if they have no interests or independent thoughts.

Agreed.

My current and longest-lasting boyfriend is autistic. And I think this does help us understand each other.

BUT it is far from the only thing we have in common.


i assume your boyfriend was the one who pursued you, asked you out, hit on you, and it reminds me of this pattern of the male and female members of Love On the Spectrum