Is not making an effort a reason for me being single ?
Instead, for the typical guy, you'll find love when you actively pursue it and put in the effort to find someone.
It worked for my dad.
At least when I was younger, it was the male's task to find and court the women. That included pubs, clubs, schools, work, and online.
Examples:
- Pursued a girl 1 year older me when I was 11. Didn't work. (She later became the first girlfriend of this guy.)
- Pursued a girl in my class and got a date. Didn't work. (She later became a model and worked for an agency in London.)
- Again pursued a girl 1 year older than me and she dumped me quite harshly after testing and teasing me for a few months.
- Mustered up the courage to ask for a girl's phone no. on prom night (not the ones[s] I went with, but that's another story). We had 2-3 dates, then she dropped me.
- Pursued a woman 2 years younger than me in uni. She dropped me after about 3 "dates".
- Fooled around a bit drunk at parties, but it never went anywhere.
- Then pursued a woman 2 years older than me who lived on another continent. We've been together for about 11 years now.
Summary: Keep exploring new environments, put yourself out there, make a shot, accept that almost all of your shots will be misses, but remember that it doesn't matter as long as you get one good hit.
Examples:
- Pursued a girl 1 year older me when I was 11. Didn't work. (She later became the first girlfriend of this guy.)
- Pursued a girl in my class and got a date. Didn't work. (She later became a model and worked for an agency in London.)
- Again pursued a girl 1 year older than me and she dumped me quite harshly after testing and teasing me for a few months.
- Mustered up the courage to ask for a girl's phone no. on prom night (not the ones[s] I went with, but that's another story). We had 2-3 dates, then she dropped me.
- Pursued a woman 2 years younger than me in uni. She dropped me after about 3 "dates".
- Fooled around a bit drunk at parties, but it never went anywhere.
- Then pursued a woman 2 years older than me who lived on another continent. We've been together for about 11 years now.
Summary: Keep exploring new environments, put yourself out there, make a shot, accept that almost all of your shots will be misses, but remember that it doesn't matter as long as you get one good hit.
Although I had more dates than you, essentially the trajectory I followed was the same. I had no luck with local women so tried overseas in Asia and struck gold.
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