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07 Aug 2022, 7:49 pm

Imagine if you would meet someone outside of a bar?

Bars are just lousy venues to meet people.



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07 Aug 2022, 7:50 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Imagine if you would meet someone outside of a bar?

Bars are just lousy venues to meet people.


Outside of bars, the rules regarding appropriate behavior still apply.


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07 Aug 2022, 7:53 pm

They apply even more, actually.



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07 Aug 2022, 7:55 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
They apply even more, actually.


I would say that, morally, they apply equally, but women who have been drinking may be less aware of concerning behavior and might not notice when someone breaks the rules.

Sober women may be less likely to call out problematic behavior even though they are more inclined to notice it.


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07 Aug 2022, 9:30 pm

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If you don’t exhibit that behavior towards men, then it demonstrates that it’s within your control and isn’t so much an autism thing. If it were, it would not be so discriminating.

I'd guess he only does this to people he's attracted to, so it happens to only women because he's heterosexual. It could still be a subconscious autism thing, but I agree that it's something he should make an effort to stop.



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07 Aug 2022, 9:37 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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If you don’t exhibit that behavior towards men, then it demonstrates that it’s within your control and isn’t so much an autism thing. If it were, it would not be so discriminating.

I'd guess he only does this to people he's attracted to, so it happens to only women because he's heterosexual. It could still be a subconscious autism thing, but I agree that it's something he should make an effort to stop.

If sexual attraction is involved, as it apparently is since he only stares at women, it’s not solely an autism thing although autism could contribute to the behavior on some level, I suppose. It’s still not a valid excuse.


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08 Aug 2022, 12:03 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
If sexual attraction is involved, as it apparently is since he only stares at women, it’s not solely an autism thing although autism could contribute to the behavior on some level, I suppose. It’s still not a valid excuse.

My guess would be his autism makes him prone to look at people he finds attractive for too long. I'd imagine it's a subconscious thing that he would be able to improve on with a conscious effort.

Talking about why something is happening isn't the same as excusing it. It's important to understand the nature of an issue in order to properly address it.



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08 Aug 2022, 1:01 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
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Well the I guess your right.



For the time being, avoid staring at women, avoid flirting with those who are on dates, avoid harassing women with lots of text messages that aren’t responded to, and avoid going to bars where your uninhibited behavior may be an issue. Binge drinking isn’t good for you anyway.


Since when did "I have tried texting her but she has not responded to my messages" translates to harassment? I take it you know the content and frequency of these messages?



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08 Aug 2022, 1:09 am

I don't really like the tone of this thread either.



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08 Aug 2022, 5:46 am

Some of my other friends were talking to that girl before she made the remark to me. Maybe my other mates pissed her of perhaps?



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08 Aug 2022, 5:49 am

This happened 8 years ago…..



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08 Aug 2022, 5:53 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
This happened 8 years ago…..
What did?



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08 Aug 2022, 5:55 am

No it happened last Saturday lol



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08 Aug 2022, 5:56 am

My mistake.

The other incident you mentioned was 8 years ago.



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08 Aug 2022, 6:03 am

The girl was in her early 20s I think or maybe 19. One of my friends who is 67 was trying to chat her up beforehand but she quickly walked away.



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08 Aug 2022, 6:05 am

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The girl was in her early 20s I think or maybe 19. One of my friends who is 67 was trying to chat her up beforehand but she quickly walked away.
yeah that doesn't surprise me. Is he one of those autistic friends you mention?