When to talk about getting laid

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I would cook her up something for when she arrives (in the apartment). Or, at the very least, offer coffee or tea. Don't forget to offer SOMETHING other than yourself (I don't mean another person, by the way )

Make sure the apartment is pretty clean.

Women are (understandably) wary about a guy who invites her to his apartment right away. Many bad things have happened to women in those sorts of situations. I would wait until you've had a few dates, at least. Until you've established somewhat of a rapport.

First you ask her if she likes Pokemon. If she says yes, then you ask her "How about we have an onix vs cloyster "pokemon battle" at my place tonight?"

100% guaranteed to work

NO, IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE SEX WITH HER.

I need to emphasize that---because that's the assumption men make all the time.

Most "decent" women would not want you to have sex the first time they get invited to your apartment. They want to have a cup of coffee, or tea, or food, or whatever. And just sit down, talk, and you guys get to know each other.

Be a good host. That's important. Be a gentleman.

In my experience, I HAVEN'T had sex immediately with somebody who invited me to her apartment/house, or who accepted an invitation to my apartment.

Wait until you've been dating for a few months.

I'd say its at least 90% chance.

I think if a woman did come over its not your right to have sex with her (just in case the hyper vigilant crowd get the wrong idea)
But if you tried , there's no way a woman can say you're a cad for trying in that situation.

In my experience if a woman isn't interested physically she will not come over to your apartment because she knows the true meaning of such an action.

If you try and fail in that situation its not the end of the world,or the relationship, either.
Then you've just shown that you're a normal bloke and that you can take no for an answer.

But in all seriousness, first off, you want to actually make sure she likes you back.

The last thing you want is to preposition sex to a girl who only see's you as a friend or isn't even into you. If you do that, you'll likely lose your friendship with her at best, and be considered a weirdo creep at worst. Regardless, you're probably going to lose her. There are clues to whether or not a woman is into you; if she's taking 24+ hours to respond back, frequently leaves you on read, is always "too busy" to meet up, talks to you about other guys she's dating, tries to set you up with someone else, then she's not attracted or you're friendzoned.


Secondly, unless you're naturally charming, or skilled at game (which most autistic men are not, no offense) then you probably want to wait until you've known a girl for at least a month and it's 100% clear that you two are dating, before you bring up sex.

It’s less possible than it was in the 80s.

For many reasons.

And don’t call it “getting laid.”

Ok, you never bring up having sex with your partner because it can scare them when they don't feel ready. Like with making out, you will both know the right time if you love each other.

It can be a bit of a minefield all of this.

Every woman is different so you have to take your time and learn about the one you are with. This should be just as much fun as "getting laid".

A few months is reasonable at your age. Women drop hints when they're ready long before then though. Someone who was holding off until marriage will tell you pretty early while someone who wanted to jump straight into it will also hint and more often than not explicitly tell you.

Don't fall into a trap of waiting to long too. I've noticed it's common for extremely shy and straight laced women to gravitate towards autisitc men in the hope they're more likely to cave in to possibly unreasonable expectations. I've had one die hard virgin date me and several others ask to date and it just isn't worth the agro at your age.