Is it pointless to have sex just to say ''you've done it'' ?

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Speaking as someone who hasn't yet had that experience, I seem to feel some people have sex for the first time and then later on when it might be brought up in a conversation about relationships and sex, you can say that I did it like you have been there and done it as though want rid yourself of the status of being a virgin. I remember hearing something from somewhere that the average person has sex for the first time in there mid or late teens. That still didn't happen with me as I had no relationship even I did like a friend of mine I used to be friends with even though she didn't seem to really want to be in a relationship. I also seem to think that when it comes to people having sex and then having their first child. I seem to think it happens because will feel like ''Well I'm in my late 20s, I should really start having children.'', much like what I heard this woman say in response to a story about another woman in her late 20s choosing not to have children with her partner and chose a form of sterilisation. I don't know why we feel naturally pressured to have babies early when a person might be feeling its too soon for me to start thinking about that in for example, your late teens or early 20s. I just seem to also think what would it do for me having sex or having a baby ? Would it make me feel any more content or satisfied with life. Its another question I ask myself in the similar way I ask myself would a more fancy car or having more friends and going out with them a lot make me any more happier or less frustrated than what I am now ?

I wish but my new boyfriend is 3 hours away and I won't see him for a while

I am miserable being stuck here living with my mom so next year I'm finally DOING something about it!

It's not just biological urges though

People have sex as a "one-night stand" and have sex without the intent of getting pregnant

Many of the couples in TV shows and movies do it for fun and without actual penetration

I am scared of pregnancy childbirth and labor so IF I was to have sex it would only be for the experience

Besides I'm 30 and too old for pregnancy!

It's not just biological urges though

People have sex as a "one-night stand" and have sex without the intent of getting pregnant

Many of the couples in TV shows and movies do it for fun and without actual penetration

I am scared of pregnancy childbirth and labor so IF I was to have sex it would only be for the experience

Besides I'm 30 and too old for pregnancy!

I can only speak for males but the sex drive is biological and has nothing to do with babies.

Many people have had sex who do not know where babies come from.

Sex for women can be a passive act.

As far as the experience of having sex as a women I imagine that is a more passive experience as well.

You could possibly just be witnessing it. It could be otherwise. That is probably why you are suppose to wait for someone you care about.

Personally, I can have sex with someone I just met as long as there is a biological urge that gives me an erection and that can just be sight and sound. The women does not have to like me although that helps. She just has to bend over or spread her legs. That is an exaggeration but that is how it is for many men. It is an exaggerated description but you should not doubt it.

The experience for a man is taking his erection that spontaneously happened and sticking it in a vagina back and forth. Babies have nothing to do with that. There is a biological urge to do that. Doubt that at your own peril.

I assume that you are joking with me to say that 30 is too late for pregnancy.

Wut?

You don’t think that we’ve evolved to seek sex for pleasure in order to ensure the perpetuation of our species.. ?

I assure you, the primary biologically evolved reason for sex = baby making’. That’s WHY we’ve evolved to seek sex via hormonal urges & pleasure seeking.. to ensure baby makin’. The two cannot be decoupled.*

*obvi there’s no baby makin’ in gay sex, but in general, humans have evolved to seek sex to ensure there are more humans on the way every 9 months.

I think we are unable to communicate. My urge is to have sex not have a new born baby in my arms. The urge leads to a result. The result of having a baby does not happen to me. It is extraneous.

How is 30 too old for pregnancy, Miss Sara?

My mom had my little brother, who is 15 and taller than me now, when she was 35.

While I never actually had sex before I HAVE made out with and passionately kissed a guy before so I can say that is something which I have done

And that making out and passionate kissing could have led to sex if I allowed it to