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17 Nov 2022, 9:02 pm

While I don't know what women want from men, what I want from women is to JUST BE LEFT ALONE!! ! :evil:

That is, I don't want a woman heckling me to see a doctor because she "cares about me" :roll:. I don't want a woman berating me for eating a bacon cheeseburger because she "cares about my cholesterol". I don't want a woman screaming at me for unwashed dishes; if she cares so damn much, wash them herself!! ! I don't want a woman demanding a goddamn "romantic evening" from me when she won't even hug me when I come home from work!! !

Oh well, maybe a #MGTOW lifestyle is my best bet. FML!



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17 Nov 2022, 9:27 pm

HUMANS!

Can't with live them... the end. :twisted:



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17 Nov 2022, 9:31 pm

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I don't think OP is coming back to this thread.
My guess is that Kitty just needed to vent.  I hope things get better for her.


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18 Nov 2022, 12:11 am

IDK from what you decribe in various threads is you have some movement problems and various health issues. So idk maybe it would be worth looking into like dating sties for disabled people. Like you just may have better luck talking to men who also have disablities. I mean I think you are a valuble person but online dating can be hard and idk can be hard to navigate if you have disablities. Unfortunatly not sure what sites are availible for it, but just thinking if you look for a datig site for disabled people, you may be able to find a man who doesn't jude you for your disabilities, he may have disabilities too but may be more understanding of yours because of it.


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18 Nov 2022, 1:44 am

What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


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18 Nov 2022, 3:23 am

Aspie1 wrote:
While I don't know what women want from men, what I want from women is to JUST BE LEFT ALONE!! ! :evil:

That is, I don't want a woman heckling me to see a doctor because she "cares about me" :roll:. I don't want a woman berating me for eating a bacon cheeseburger because she "cares about my cholesterol". I don't want a woman screaming at me for unwashed dishes; if she cares so damn much, wash them herself!! ! I don't want a woman demanding a goddamn "romantic evening" from me when she won't even hug me when I come home from work!! !

Oh well, maybe a #MGTOW lifestyle is my best bet. FML!


My mum heckled my dad to see a doctor as he had a growth on his neck. Doctor said it was a blocked gland. She then heckled him to get a second opinion, turns out he had cancer. So sometimes women do it for your own benefit.



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18 Nov 2022, 3:33 am

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What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


I think that's just guys and dating in online, and possible in person in general. You talk to several people at once and figure out who is the best fit for you and once you're leaning towards one person you give that person more attention. That said after a couple of weeks or so its natural for the attention a guy is given you lessens as the novelty of someone new has worn off. This doesn't always mean he's lost interest in you. Just he's busy with work, activities and other general things going in and no offence to men, it takes a lot more effort in general for men to socialise than women as we're just born with the natural need to do so. Which is why its harder to diagonse girls on the spectrum as they are more likely to learn to mask and fit in with other girls early on. Not saying this is always the case after all its a spectrum.

So just do what guys do, build lots of relationships with lots of people and don't share to much and just make him want to get to know you more. Although if you're anything like me you'd have already picked one decided what you want to do and invision your future with him in the whole house and white picket fence then get devestated when it doesn't work out.



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18 Nov 2022, 7:32 am

Like Amy said….it’s nobody’s “fault,” really.

It’s really difficult for most people to find a suitable partner.

Usually, in relationships—whether online or in-person, people just drift apart. The novelty wears off.

Usually, both parties must either be really into each other, or both are desperate for a connection.



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18 Nov 2022, 12:00 pm

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Liars?  Mind games?  Okay, explain the following:

• Makeup
• Breast implants
• Foundation undergarments (i.e., padded bras, corsets, girdles, body-shapers, et cetera)
• High-Heeled shoes
• Wigs
"Fine!" when she is obviously not fine.
"Nothing's Wrong!" when something is definitely wrong.
"Go right ahead!", and then he comes home to a cold, dark, and empty house with a "Dear John" letter prominently displayed.
Women are stereotyped to do that. However men are stereotyped to :arrow:
~Lie about their income, jobs/careers to impress women
~Pretend they are interested in a relationship when they are just wanting sex
~Cheat

Both genders & humans in general can majorly s#ck :(

Are you describing yourself?
I do NOT fit either stereotype but I do s#ck since I am human :wink:


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18 Nov 2022, 12:32 pm

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Aspie1 wrote:
While I don't know what women want from men, what I want from women is to JUST BE LEFT ALONE!! ! :evil:

That is, I don't want a woman heckling me to see a doctor because she "cares about me" :roll:. I don't want a woman berating me for eating a bacon cheeseburger because she "cares about my cholesterol". I don't want a woman screaming at me for unwashed dishes; if she cares so damn much, wash them herself!! ! I don't want a woman demanding a goddamn "romantic evening" from me when she won't even hug me when I come home from work!! !

Oh well, maybe a #MGTOW lifestyle is my best bet. FML!


My mum heckled my dad to see a doctor as he had a growth on his neck. Doctor said it was a blocked gland. She then heckled him to get a second opinion, turns out he had cancer. So sometimes women do it for your own benefit.
I have to push my girlfriend to go to the doctor sometimes cuz her anxiety can prevent her from going or she feels too discouraged to. I had to threaten to call 911 once when she was having a sever asthma attack & the health center was a 7 minute walk down the road from our house & she did not want to deal with going out. I meant it when I said I would call which is why she agreed to go & the doc was very glad I made her go in. We both have a history of getting screwed over & misunderstood by the medical industry. I have better luck than I did as a kid & teen thou probably due to me having more disabilities diagnosed & I've leanred to assert myself more & explain things better. Whereas Cass didn't really deal with em growing up due to her dad working alot cuz her family was very poor & one of Cass's brothers had a lot of very serious issues so so her parents were kind of burnt out from focusing on him. Cass chose not go go in her 20s cuz of her anxiety & depression & nobody tried to get her to. Some of the medical problems she has probably would be better than they currently are if she had gotten medical care as a kid & in her 20s.


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18 Nov 2022, 10:31 pm

I've seen a few posts about persuading one's significant other to see a doctor. If you're trying to do that, perhaps your SO might be convinced by reading my hospital threads. All of them detail very positive experiences I had at my local hospital. In the last several months, I developed a serious but treatable medical condition, so I manned up and did what I had to do; my visits ended up being very positive. My pain was taken seriously and minimized, and my questions were answered properly and in full. Good luck to you (plural) and your SO's as well.

This one is minor outpatient surgeries. I had surgery, and was given propofol and fentanyl to put me under. Those chemicals had in a euphoria for days, like losing my virginity in 2005, with little post-surgery pain.
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This one is for routine procedures taking less than 90 minutes, particularly phlebotomy and machine scans. I felt no discomfort getting them done, despite my initial fear of needles, and the workers were excellent.
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This one is for those who had traumatic medical experiences as kids. I want people to know that adults' doctors are very compassionate and accommodating. They're not the Dark Triad butchers pediatricians are.
Why Are Pediatricians So Bad Compared To Adults' Doctors?



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19 Nov 2022, 10:19 am

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I've seen a few posts about persuading one's significant other to see a doctor. If you're trying to do that, perhaps your SO might be convinced by reading my hospital threads. All of them detail very positive experiences I had at my local hospital.
Where do you live? There's kinda a monopoly on the hospital system here. The college kinda owns all the hospitals & Cass had a couple relatives die over the years & might of been related to malpractice. Plus she had some very bad experiences herself. So it's very understandable why she does NOT have faith in the system. It's great you & other people have good luck with health care but knowing that won't wash away the bad luck her & her family has. Really wish there was a hospital option that was not affiliated with the university. When someone majorly screws up, you should go to a different place for a 2nd opinion or to correct the problem cuz the place that f#cked-up would try to cover it up to protect themselves instead of risking a malpractice claim by owning up to what really happened.


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19 Nov 2022, 10:48 am

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I've seen a few posts about persuading one's significant other to see a doctor. If you're trying to do that, perhaps your SO might be convinced by reading my hospital threads. All of them detail very positive experiences I had at my local hospital.
Where do you live? There's kinda a monopoly on the hospital system here. The college kinda owns all the hospitals & Cass had a couple relatives die over the years & might of been related to malpractice.
I live just outside of a large US city, but my hospital is located near its downtown. (One train station away, to be exact.) It's a research hospital affiliated with a university. My insurance company uses it as its preferred provider. But... my patient chart says I work for the city government. So perhaps the doctors and nurses are so good to me because of that, I don't know. Either way, I'm grateful. My pediatricians were butchers, and my earlier adult doctors were "just OK".



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20 Nov 2022, 12:32 am

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What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


I think that's just guys and dating in online, and possible in person in general. You talk to several people at once and figure out who is the best fit for you and once you're leaning towards one person you give that person more attention. That said after a couple of weeks or so its natural for the attention a guy is given you lessens as the novelty of someone new has worn off. This doesn't always mean he's lost interest in you. Just he's busy with work, activities and other general things going in and no offence to men, it takes a lot more effort in general for men to socialise than women as we're just born with the natural need to do so. Which is why its harder to diagonse girls on the spectrum as they are more likely to learn to mask and fit in with other girls early on. Not saying this is always the case after all its a spectrum.

So just do what guys do, build lots of relationships with lots of people and don't share to much and just make him want to get to know you more. Although if you're anything like me you'd have already picked one decided what you want to do and invision your future with him in the whole house and white picket fence then get devestated when it doesn't work out.



The guy I was talking to, he was visiting his brother & his family, he said it’s hard to get away to chat with me.


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20 Nov 2022, 12:39 am

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What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


I think that's just guys and dating in online, and possible in person in general. You talk to several people at once and figure out who is the best fit for you and once you're leaning towards one person you give that person more attention. That said after a couple of weeks or so its natural for the attention a guy is given you lessens as the novelty of someone new has worn off. This doesn't always mean he's lost interest in you. Just he's busy with work, activities and other general things going in and no offence to men, it takes a lot more effort in general for men to socialise than women as we're just born with the natural need to do so. Which is why its harder to diagonse girls on the spectrum as they are more likely to learn to mask and fit in with other girls early on. Not saying this is always the case after all its a spectrum.

So just do what guys do, build lots of relationships with lots of people and don't share to much and just make him want to get to know you more. Although if you're anything like me you'd have already picked one decided what you want to do and invision your future with him in the whole house and white picket fence then get devestated when it doesn't work out.



The guy I was talking to, he was visiting his brother & his family, he said it’s hard to get away to chat with me.


Did the situation improve after he got home, or is he still there? But yes it's harder to reply whilst visiting from personal experience. But if it doesn't improve a bit when he gets back that's fine too.



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20 Nov 2022, 2:19 am

amykitten wrote:
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What wrong with me? I talk to men for days or over a week then they disappear on me. Why they lose interest in me, it’s my fault? Did they find another woman? I can feel like I’m the second best, men want another woman.


I think that's just guys and dating in online, and possible in person in general. You talk to several people at once and figure out who is the best fit for you and once you're leaning towards one person you give that person more attention. That said after a couple of weeks or so its natural for the attention a guy is given you lessens as the novelty of someone new has worn off. This doesn't always mean he's lost interest in you. Just he's busy with work, activities and other general things going in and no offence to men, it takes a lot more effort in general for men to socialise than women as we're just born with the natural need to do so. Which is why its harder to diagonse girls on the spectrum as they are more likely to learn to mask and fit in with other girls early on. Not saying this is always the case after all its a spectrum.

So just do what guys do, build lots of relationships with lots of people and don't share to much and just make him want to get to know you more. Although if you're anything like me you'd have already picked one decided what you want to do and invision your future with him in the whole house and white picket fence then get devestated when it doesn't work out.



The guy I was talking to, he was visiting his brother & his family, he said it’s hard to get away to chat with me.


Did the situation improve after he got home, or is he still there? But yes it's harder to reply whilst visiting from personal experience. But if it doesn't improve a bit when he gets back that's fine too.


He told me he will go home last Monday, maybe he stays longer, it been a week then I haven’t heard from him.


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