The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Not directly, but I have read the whole thread and comments and seems in no uncertain terms it comes down to a lot of guys just won't accept any women in their league rather than threre being an entire lack of datable women.
Can you cite a quote or quotes from this thread to substantiate your assertion?
I'd have to dig back through but just all the insistance that you need to be attractive an that is what matters above all else. So I worry some autistic peoplee solely look at pretty people and get sucked into like 'why cant I have a pretty model looking girl though and then kind of look past women in their leauge towards rare women who look like models. but yeah I have just been loosely following this and just seems like it fit the over-all pattern I observe.
Like it is reasonable that people need some attraction to want to have sex with someone, so I am not saying that is wrong I just wonder if developing non realistic standards can affect that in an unhealthy way. to where maybe without developing those they'd have a wider range of features the find attractive and thus gain a better chance. Like that is what I mean I get the impression some people are so stuck on looks they are rejecting potential oppurtunities for a relationship because 'shes not a 10 though' But nah not trying to offend anyone, it is just a perspective I have gathered but anyone is welcome to disagree like some people may have valid counter points I need to consider.
But Idk I never was great looking and at least for me looks aren't even that important Like Idk I like my boyfriend because I enjoy being with him...and I like him and hes attractive to me but like for the standardized look scale he is not that attractive...he's a bit fat, his hair is balding some he doesn't have the best clothes, bla bla bla but I like his blue eyes and as much as he compliains of the ginger features...I like his reddish freckles he's got all over. So I just don't get some guys being so picky about women when I had no problem falling in love with someone who isn't conventionally attractive. Like I just don't get being picky about looks when one is not the greatest looking themself, like you really can't find anything other than a grown woman emulating a cheer-leader attractive.
That is what I mean a lot of times if you ask why they are having trouble it will eventually get to they do get oppurtunities but then are like I am fat so therefore if girl weighs more than 100 pounds I reject and then go back to woe is me I can never find a girl but all they will accept is a cheerleader dream girl when they don't even have a great body themselves, so kind of hard to not say 'well no wonder if you reject every woman who is actually in your leauge for the chance of the dream girl falling in your lap.
Not you specifically just internet people in general.
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