How To Get A Girlfriend If You're An Autistic Man

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28 Jan 2023, 5:46 am

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Not directly, but I have read the whole thread and comments and seems in no uncertain terms it comes down to a lot of guys just won't accept any women in their league rather than threre being an entire lack of datable women.

Can you cite a quote or quotes from this thread to substantiate your assertion?


I'd have to dig back through but just all the insistance that you need to be attractive an that is what matters above all else. So I worry some autistic peoplee solely look at pretty people and get sucked into like 'why cant I have a pretty model looking girl though and then kind of look past women in their leauge towards rare women who look like models. but yeah I have just been loosely following this and just seems like it fit the over-all pattern I observe.

Like it is reasonable that people need some attraction to want to have sex with someone, so I am not saying that is wrong I just wonder if developing non realistic standards can affect that in an unhealthy way. to where maybe without developing those they'd have a wider range of features the find attractive and thus gain a better chance. Like that is what I mean I get the impression some people are so stuck on looks they are rejecting potential oppurtunities for a relationship because 'shes not a 10 though' But nah not trying to offend anyone, it is just a perspective I have gathered but anyone is welcome to disagree like some people may have valid counter points I need to consider.

But Idk I never was great looking and at least for me looks aren't even that important Like Idk I like my boyfriend because I enjoy being with him...and I like him and hes attractive to me but like for the standardized look scale he is not that attractive...he's a bit fat, his hair is balding some he doesn't have the best clothes, bla bla bla but I like his blue eyes and as much as he compliains of the ginger features...I like his reddish freckles he's got all over. So I just don't get some guys being so picky about women when I had no problem falling in love with someone who isn't conventionally attractive. Like I just don't get being picky about looks when one is not the greatest looking themself, like you really can't find anything other than a grown woman emulating a cheer-leader attractive.

That is what I mean a lot of times if you ask why they are having trouble it will eventually get to they do get oppurtunities but then are like I am fat so therefore if girl weighs more than 100 pounds I reject and then go back to woe is me I can never find a girl but all they will accept is a cheerleader dream girl when they don't even have a great body themselves, so kind of hard to not say 'well no wonder if you reject every woman who is actually in your leauge for the chance of the dream girl falling in your lap.

Not you specifically just internet people in general.


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28 Jan 2023, 5:48 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Not you specifically just internet people in general.

Why don't you go insult them instead then, wherever it is they might be at.


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28 Jan 2023, 5:59 am

r00tb33r wrote:
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Not you specifically just internet people in general.

Why don't you go insult them instead then, wherever it is they might be at.


Because I had no intention of insulting anyone, I just wonder if unrealistic standards are part of the issue with autistic guys finding relationships. But yeah I'm not going to be an ass and point fingers at specific posters I'm not the relationship police I just think it is possible unrealistic expectations can make one miss opportunities.


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28 Jan 2023, 6:03 am

Oh, so at first you were certain that the struggling guys here want blonde models only.

Then, you got uncertain.

Then, you are just assuming.

Fascinating.



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28 Jan 2023, 6:12 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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Not directly, but I have read the whole thread and comments and seems in no uncertain terms it comes down to a lot of guys just won't accept any women in their league rather than threre being an entire lack of datable women.

Can you cite a quote or quotes from this thread to substantiate your assertion?


Why you are rejecting the plenty of average admirers lined up at your doorstep?? Why you only want a blonde pornstar?

Why TGI, why?



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28 Jan 2023, 6:26 am

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Oh, so at first you were certain that the struggling guys want blonde models only.

Then, you got uncertain.

Then, you are just assuming.

Fascinating.


The blonde models are part of the unrealistic expectation.

But I do not thnk the poster I responded to is an example of someone who has that expectation, but there is a concerning amount of social akward guys whether autism or not is the cause who seem to feel entitled to a girlfriend but not any girlfriend specifically a conventionally hot one like in the movies

and I think it would benifet them to gain a more realistic prespective, but its not just an autism issue like even some nts need to realize movies and models on magazines don't nessisarily reflect how people in general look. LIke most guys aren't going to get a girl that looks like their favorite half nude model on a magazine cover and if there is an inabilty to move past that, I think that harms people.


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28 Jan 2023, 6:49 am

Damn, no-one saw my post. I thought I'd made quite a decent point and I wanted to see what others thought of it..


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28 Jan 2023, 6:50 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Not directly, but I have read the whole thread and comments and seems in no uncertain terms it comes down to a lot of guys just won't accept any women in their league rather than threre being an entire lack of datable women.

Can you cite a quote or quotes from this thread to substantiate your assertion?


Why you are rejecting the plenty of average admirers lined up at your doorstep?? Why you only want a blonde pornstar?

Why TGI, why?


I mean I specifically said I was not talking about them, I don't think that particular poster is an example of what I am talking about. But hijacking my post to make it look like I was attacking that poster is kind of immature at best.


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28 Jan 2023, 7:43 am

s**t, I have to ditch my Asian girlfriend whom I have been dating for more than a year, because I am an autistic man and she is not a blonde cheerleader.
Oh wait, I am Asian too.



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28 Jan 2023, 7:46 am

Of course I read your post, Joe.

You haven’t commented on any of MY posts here :)

Of course you make good sense. Your boyfriend, like my wife, is not the Cat’s Meow in a conventional sense—but is way good enough in the true sense.



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28 Jan 2023, 7:57 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Of course I read your post, Joe.

You haven’t commented on any of MY posts here :)

Of course you make good sense. Your boyfriend, like my wife, is not the Cat’s Meow in a conventional sense—but is way good enough in the true sense.


I've pretty much read every post in this thread. :lol:
Shame there's no 'like' button where we can acknowledge people's posts without having to post.


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28 Jan 2023, 8:15 am

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There’s absolutely nothing in common between these guys. :lol:

Duh. They're all white. To an American that's the most obvious thing.


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28 Jan 2023, 8:20 am

My wife is black.



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28 Jan 2023, 8:24 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
s**t, I have to ditch my Asian girlfriend that I have been dating for more than a year, because I am an autistic man and she is not a blonde cheerleader.
Oh wait, I am Asian too.

In North America, Lebanese are categorized as white.

Sorry, trying to pass didn't work for Rachel Dolezal and it won't work for you either.


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28 Jan 2023, 8:32 am

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Damn, no-one saw my post. I thought I'd made quite a decent point and I wanted to see what others thought of it..


Because your posts make sense; logical.

Nothing to argue about.



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28 Jan 2023, 8:37 am

Looks can be important…..but they certainly aren’t the final determinant of whether a person is suitable.

After high school age, most of the time, other qualities supersede “looks.”

I’d rather go out with an “ugly” person who smells nice than a model who stinks.



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