Red Flags

Page 9 of 43 [ 675 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 ... 43 Next

Previous topic | Next topic

Where_am_I
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Apr 2019
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,392
Location: London

24 Mar 2023, 7:23 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:

Recidivist wrote:

I'm pretty sure I saw a member post (deleted now) here calling out a behaviour that they were doing themselves by calling out the behaviour - that's some Red Flag inception s**t :lol:

It's very strange. I'm starting to feel like I'm in an exceptionally bizarre episode of The Twilight Zone. :lol:

_________________
"A loaded gun won't set you free. So you say." - Ian Curtis

Raleigh
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 7 Jul 2014
Age: 124
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 34,218
Location: Out of my mind

24 Mar 2023, 7:25 pm

Histrionic people.

_________________
It's like I'm sleepwalking

Fnord
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 May 2008
Age: 67
Gender: Male
Posts: 59,829
Location: Stendec

24 Mar 2023, 7:38 pm

• When someone 'profiles' me based on my actions and appearance, and then uses the 'profile' to justify treating me like crap.

"You stupid ret*d . . . Imma talk to you r e a l s l o w l y f r o m n o w on . . ."

:evil:

_________________

No love for Hamas, Hezbollah, Iranian Leadership, Islamic Jihad, other Islamic terrorist groups, OR their supporters and sympathizers.

TwilightPrincess
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Sep 2016
Age: 39
Gender: Female
Posts: 21,298
Location: Hell

24 Mar 2023, 7:53 pm

^ I know the feeling. People sometimes mistake my timidity for stupidity. It's frustrating.

_________________
Double, double toil and trouble;
Fire burn and caldron bubble.

nick007
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 May 2010
Age: 41
Gender: Male
Posts: 27,121
Location: was Louisiana but now Vermont in the police state called USA

25 Mar 2023, 12:34 am

When someone has conflicting opinions of me but they only apply negative aspects to me. Like they assume I'm too ret*d for them to consider what I say & take me seriously but when I screw up somehow they believe that I'm smart enough to know better & I must of screwed up on purpose because I want to be difficult.

When someone does not consider my advice but regularly expects me to help them out or listen to them rant about a situation that woulda been avoided if they had taken my advice.

_________________
"I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem!"
~King Of The Hill

"Hear all, trust nothing"
~Ferengi Rule Of Acquisition #190
https://memory-alpha.fandom.com/wiki/Ru ... cquisition

IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 68,461
Location: Chez Quis

25 Mar 2023, 1:10 am

nick007 wrote:

^ So much these.

_________________
And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.

IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 68,461
Location: Chez Quis

25 Mar 2023, 9:45 am

I just read a really good article on neuroinstincts.com, about the red flags of psychopathy in relationships.

I'm not sure how to quote a whole article but here's a link:

16 Red Flags of Psychopathy

"16 Red Flags You Could Be Dating a Psychopath" ^
by Rhonda Freeman, PhD (2015 - Updated 2020)

Some of the key points are explained in this video:

Background: Partner turns from love-bomber to be argumentative / causes drama

1. Obsession with winning all arguments or conversations / mate is "less than"
2. Keeps big secrets about their life or their behaviour by conning or manipulating
3. No accountability for their behaviour or mistakes -- blame-shifts, lies, cons
4. Hypersensitive about self -- lack of empathy or forethought, will retaliate and punish
5. Poor morality -- cheats on spouse, etc., can be sexist, transphobic, racist, etc.
6. You find yourself teaching them how to be a kind person -- but it doesn't work

_________________
And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.

TwilightPrincess
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Sep 2016
Age: 39
Gender: Female
Posts: 21,298
Location: Hell

25 Mar 2023, 9:51 am

^ Wow! That’s fascinating!

I’ve seen most of those in action.

_________________
Double, double toil and trouble;
Fire burn and caldron bubble.

IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 68,461
Location: Chez Quis

25 Mar 2023, 10:00 am

"These are not things we need to do if the person is over the age of, say ... seven .... "

_________________
And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.

longshot
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Dec 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,037
Location: In some fictional location

25 Mar 2023, 10:09 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:

Background: Partner turns from love-bomber to be argumentative / causes drama

1. Obsession with winning all arguments or conversations / mate is "less than"
2. Keeps big secrets about their life or their behaviour by conning or manipulating
3. No accountability for their behaviour or mistakes -- blame-shifts, lies, cons
4. Hypersensitive about self -- lack of empathy or forethought, will retaliate and punish
5. Poor morality -- cheats on spouse, etc., can be sexist, transphobic, racist, etc.
6. You find yourself teaching them how to be a kind person -- but it doesn't work

Creepy indeed..

TwilightPrincess
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Sep 2016
Age: 39
Gender: Female
Posts: 21,298
Location: Hell

25 Mar 2023, 10:38 am

- expects you to dress up and wear makeup for them every.damn.day.

_________________
Double, double toil and trouble;
Fire burn and caldron bubble.

longshot
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Dec 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,037
Location: In some fictional location

25 Mar 2023, 11:21 am

When someone speaks in 1st person using the word "we", when clearly they are not referring to you and themselves; as I've had this experience several times

funeralxempire
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 27 Oct 2014
Age: 39
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 25,456
Location: Right over your left shoulder

25 Mar 2023, 11:35 am

longshot wrote:

When someone speaks in 1st person using the word "we", when clearly they are not referring to you and themselves; as I've had this experience several times

Was her name Victoria?

_________________
Watching liberals try to solve societal problems without a systemic critique/class consciousness is like watching someone in the dark try to flip on the light switch, but they keep turning on the garbage disposal instead.
戦争ではなく戦争と戦う

longshot
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Dec 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,037
Location: In some fictional location

25 Mar 2023, 11:36 am

No.. as I can't remember the name of this person, as this was several years ago..

funeralxempire
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 27 Oct 2014
Age: 39
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 25,456
Location: Right over your left shoulder

25 Mar 2023, 11:40 am

longshot wrote:

No.. as I can't remember the name of this person, as this was several years ago..

longshot
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Dec 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,037
Location: In some fictional location

25 Mar 2023, 11:50 am

I was not being sarcastic in my original post sir.

Page 9 of 43 [ 675 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 ... 43 Next

Jump to:

Red Flags Post Reply New Topic

Red Flags