Increasing popularity of friends-first approach

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29 Mar 2023, 4:39 am

Pepe wrote:
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Just to show that it's not only me saying this, I found this video on the topic:

Personally, I think being able tell them about your feelings in the makes things easier if you lack social skills, not harder.

I never suggested working opinions regarding this topic was a binary, remember? ;)

"To each their own."
Both ways, perhaps all ways, pay "dividends" at times.


Ole'!

If "all ways" are valid, or, "pay dividends" (at times), then the approach doesn't really matter, does it? At least, in that (lack of) context. So I guess being a smart funny person with a great personality, lying to people to trick them into sex, and exploiting someone's poverty for your own personal gain, are all equally "effective" since they can all "pay dividends". That would explain a lot of the weird ideas about how to get sex "dates" presented on this site.


You seem to be in distress.
I think you need to settle down.

You constantly change the context that other ppl are using.
My context didn't involve lying or exploitation.

Since you seem to be doing this with others, also, I am not taking things personally.


You seem to be overreacting to little things.
I think you need to settle down.

I never said your context involved such things - merely that, in the absence of clarity, such things are possible.
Would you care to elaborate? With more than what you "didn't say"?

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29 Mar 2023, 5:57 am

uncommondenominator wrote:
Pepe wrote:
uncommondenominator wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Jono wrote:
Just to show that it's not only me saying this, I found this video on the topic:

Personally, I think being able tell them about your feelings in the makes things easier if you lack social skills, not harder.

I never suggested working opinions regarding this topic was a binary, remember? ;)

"To each their own."
Both ways, perhaps all ways, pay "dividends" at times.


Ole'!

If "all ways" are valid, or, "pay dividends" (at times), then the approach doesn't really matter, does it? At least, in that (lack of) context. So I guess being a smart funny person with a great personality, lying to people to trick them into sex, and exploiting someone's poverty for your own personal gain, are all equally "effective" since they can all "pay dividends". That would explain a lot of the weird ideas about how to get sex "dates" presented on this site.


You seem to be in distress.
I think you need to settle down.

You constantly change the context that other ppl are using.
My context didn't involve lying or exploitation.

Since you seem to be doing this with others, also, I am not taking things personally.


You seem to be overreacting to little things.
I think you need to settle down.

I never said your context involved such things - merely that, in the absence of clarity, such things are possible.
Would you care to elaborate? With more than what you "didn't say"?

Dip dodge duck dive and dodge!


No... 8)



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29 Mar 2023, 6:41 am

Didn't think so... 8)



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29 Mar 2023, 7:01 am

Rexi wrote:
Jono wrote:
Just to show that it's not only me saying this, I found this video on the topic:



Personally, I think being able tell them about your feelings in the makes things easier if you lack social skills, not harder.

That's true but a little too soon and they might not be ready for it and pull away or think it's a red flag so soon, if they themselves tend to not be so fast to feel.


You can always just ask them out for coffee and not call it a date. The important thing is just to not put pressure on them, just asking to meet one-on-one doesn't necessarily mean that they have to decide right now whether they want to be in a relationship with you. Once they know that you're interested, give them all the time they need.

I'd be more concerned about when and where is the appropriate time to ask.



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29 Mar 2023, 11:23 pm

uncommondenominator wrote:
Didn't think so... 8)


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30 Mar 2023, 10:22 am

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Didn't think so... 8)


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I'm not a clock. I'm a fraction. By definition, that makes me "rational" :wink:



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30 Mar 2023, 1:44 pm

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I'm not a clock. I'm a fraction. By definition, that makes me "rational" :wink:


Really? And I thought you were the uncommon denominator. :wink:



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30 Mar 2023, 5:59 pm

Jono wrote:
Rexi wrote:
Jono wrote:
Just to show that it's not only me saying this, I found this video on the topic:



Personally, I think being able tell them about your feelings in the makes things easier if you lack social skills, not harder.

That's true but a little too soon and they might not be ready for it and pull away or think it's a red flag so soon, if they themselves tend to not be so fast to feel.


You can always just ask them out for coffee and not call it a date. The important thing is just to not put pressure on them, just asking to meet one-on-one doesn't necessarily mean that they have to decide right now whether they want to be in a relationship with you. Once they know that you're interested, give them all the time they need.

I'd be more concerned about when and where is the appropriate time to ask.

Did you hear, Pepe. We haven't had our first coffee date. :mrgreen: I'll bring along a thick mask, I don't want to choke on the smell. Not your smell, but coffee's.


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30 Mar 2023, 6:06 pm

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Didn't think so... 8)


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30 Mar 2023, 7:05 pm

Jono wrote:
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I'm not a clock. I'm a fraction. By definition, that makes me "rational" :wink:


Really? And I thought you were the uncommon denominator. :wink:


That's correct. That's WHY I'm a fraction :wink:

On occasion, I've been known to be an improper fraction :jester:

Too much to drink, and I may become a mixed fraction :ninja:



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30 Mar 2023, 8:23 pm

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Did you hear, Pepe. We haven't had our first coffee date. :mrgreen: I'll bring along a thick mask, I don't want to choke on the smell. Not your smell, but coffee's.


It will have to be decaff.
You know what happens when I have "real" coffee, right? 8O

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30 Mar 2023, 11:20 pm

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Did you hear, Pepe. We haven't had our first coffee date. :mrgreen: I'll bring along a thick mask, I don't want to choke on the smell. Not your smell, but coffee's.


It will have to be decaff.
You know what happens when I have "real" coffee, right? 8O



I have known you for long enough, caffeine included. You can have some even on our date. :mrgreen:

Experiments on skunks. You have more a werewolf body than ever before, a howlskunk. Part of it is lizard, possibly, too. Want some of my shimmery pink glow La Vie Est Belle cream?


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30 Mar 2023, 11:38 pm

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Experiments on skunks. You have more a werewolf body than ever before, a howlskunk. Part of it is lizard, possibly, too. Want some of my shimmery pink glow La Vie Est Belle cream?


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01 Apr 2023, 4:03 pm

Pepe wrote:
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Experiments on skunks. You have more a werewolf body than ever before, a howlskunk. Part of it is lizard, possibly, too. Want some of my shimmery pink glow La Vie Est Belle cream?


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Anything you like, bae. Nb superhero.
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02 Apr 2023, 12:21 am

My neighbor Anita and her husband Phil started out as friends first before dating

On the other hand my other neighbor Glenn and Maureen created their relationship out of thin air (without starting out as friends) and they are older adults so there may be truth to these statistics!

My relationship was created the same way as Glenn and Maureen's


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02 Apr 2023, 12:57 am

Rexi wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Rexi wrote:

Experiments on skunks. You have more a werewolf body than ever before, a howlskunk. Part of it is lizard, possibly, too. Want some of my shimmery pink glow La Vie Est Belle cream?


Pass.
I am going for the rugged non-binary look. 8)

Anything you like, bae. Nb superhero.
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Something fishy about those pictures. :scratch: