Debating his attractiveness?

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15 Oct 2023, 7:04 am

I remember my cousin was debating with his friend about how he thought he was attractive to girls.

His friend disagreed with him slightly saying "Well has a girl ever come up to you and said your good looking?"

Do you my cousins friend was trying to give him a reality check by that comment?



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15 Oct 2023, 7:11 am

It's off-putting when people brag about that stuff. He was probably trying to get him to knock it off.


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15 Oct 2023, 7:16 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
It's off-putting when people brag about that stuff. He was probably trying to get him to knock it off.



Is there some truth though to the part where he said about a girl saying he's good looking to his face?



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15 Oct 2023, 7:18 am

No. Most of the time women don't go around telling random people they are good-looking. I never have.


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15 Oct 2023, 9:35 am

Women usually use less direct means of signalling they like a dude's looks, versus than telling them directly.

Autistic women might sometimes be an exception.



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15 Oct 2023, 9:49 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
Women usually use less direct means of signalling they like a dude's looks, versus than telling them directly.

Autistic women might sometimes be an exception.



Give me an example of a less direct means?



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15 Oct 2023, 10:16 am

I might tell someone they're looking well and ask them have they been working out or something like that.

I can't remember directly telling a man they are good looking.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:19 am

babybird wrote:
I might tell someone they're looking well and ask them have they been working out or something like that.

I can't remember directly telling a man they are good looking.



Some women have told me I am good looking before.



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15 Oct 2023, 10:21 am

Well that's nice of them.


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15 Oct 2023, 1:11 pm

I'm too shy to tell men that I think they are attractive. :oops:



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15 Oct 2023, 3:14 pm

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Women usually use less direct means of signalling they like a dude's looks, versus than telling them directly.

Autistic women might sometimes be an exception.



Give me an example of a less direct means?


It depends on the context & situation. If you are in a bar or a pub, and a woman let's say, asks you to hold her hand whilst she takes a shot of alcohol, you'll know she probably likes you at least a little.

Or they might dance close to you, getting their ass in your crotch space in a club, for example.

And usually in such situations, being physically attractive to someone is a factor in having fun with someone.



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15 Oct 2023, 6:13 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Women usually use less direct means of signalling they like a dude's looks, versus than telling them directly.

Autistic women might sometimes be an exception.



Give me an example of a less direct means?


It depends on the context & situation. If you are in a bar or a pub, and a woman let's say, asks you to hold her hand whilst she takes a shot of alcohol, you'll know she probably likes you at least a little.

Or they might dance close to you, getting their ass in your crotch space in a club, for example.

And usually in such situations, being physically attractive to someone is a factor in having fun with someone.



LOL the same girl who danced with me 4-5 years ago gave me the brush off last night



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15 Oct 2023, 6:14 pm

A lot can happen in 4-5 years. People can change their minds.


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15 Oct 2023, 6:21 pm

TwilightPrincess wrote:
A lot can happen in 4-5 years. People can change their minds.




I am living in the past to much



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15 Oct 2023, 9:58 pm

Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
A lot can happen in 4-5 years. People can change their minds.




I am living in the past to much


Living in the past can be a symptom of depression.

Try not to get hung up on people who don't care about you.