If I had planned, would I be a relationship by now ?

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I seem to think sometimes that some people who are now in relationships, married and have kids are because they probably planned for it. I know this may sound ridiculous and is probably untrue but it's what I seem to wrongly think.

I sometimes also think to myself that if I had planned my future at 18, would I be experiencing these things now like my peers are or not. The thing is at 18, I wasn't entirely sure what to do after leaving sixth form, so I was persuaded to do art and design at college but between college and leaving uni, I began losing interest in art and perhaps originally wanted to become an author or writer and started going back to subjects I was interested in as a child such as history. I'm in the process of writing right now still but still haven't had anything published yet.

I seem to think there were things I wanted to be like I once dreamed about having my own zoo but now realise that its not that simple as I probably have to be a billionaire like John or Damian Aspinall. I even had aspirations to start a band when I was learning bass guitar but I think I was too impatient to learn or not as passionate enough to focus on it as career because I was into other things

I do keep reminding myself of a guy called Steven Bartlett who wrote the book Happy Sexy Millionaire in which he explained how he planned at 18, to become a millionaire, have a girlfriend and so on by 25. He set up his own social media company by that time but explained that some of those expectations he had were unattainable and unrealistic especially in terms achieving success and fulfilment.

You wanted to have your own zoo?

Planning and having a direction in life is important, but as it happens, life is a box of surprises. You never ever know what's waiting for you. So no, had you planned you might be the same you are right now, or maybe not, but almost certanly you would not be were you planned to. If you want a relationship, make yoursef available, go on dates... But do not rush it. Don't settle with someone that isn't for you because "better than nothing", that's the biggest mistake many end up doing.
Also planning at 18 is a bit too young, still too inexperienced to know what life is actually like.

^cool. Would there have been chimps?

I want to hear more about the zoo.

I had a serious response but now I just want to hear about the zoo.

I was being serious!

I really want to hear about chris1989's zoo.

What animals did you want? So far we have chimps but that's not a zoo, that's just a tea party. What else?

Did you ever do maps of the layout?

I don't think he's going to tell us about the zoo

^ It sounds like Las Vegas.