Women: rate me based on my personal history, be honest

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17 Sep 2007, 3:18 am

I just thought this would be interesting. Tell me what you think based on what I tell you about myself, I am wondering if I have too many issues for a regular woman to deal with(I am not making anything here up, by the way).

I am 23 (almost 24) yr old university student with AS (I am not majoring in anything that will make me any money, at least now). I live with my parents, and while I own a new car and own some substantial investments, I have no income other than this and have never had a decent job. I am a former drug addict (including heroin and cocaine) and alcoholic, and this is an ongoing issue for me even though I have been sober for 2 years. I have some issues to do with relationships and women, and my relationships have had a very bad success rate. I like to keep fit, am tall and have a lanky muscular body from training martial arts for a long time (similar to the guy in my avatar). I would say I am average looking, and above average intelligence. Although this intelligence usually pertains to things that do not produce money (yet), and often few people can have an intellectual conversation with me because they either A) don't care about having intellectual conversations about politics, the nature of life, psychology etc. of B) are not interested in anything I am. I also think I spend too much time on the internet, and have an obsessive-compulsive nature. Also, in the past I have suffered from depression, and attempted suicide at age 12. I also have a very good, dry sense of humor (this thread should be proof). I think that covers everything, so, based on this would you say

A) I am trash and should die (suicide)
B) someone with my issues can never recover (I am damaged goods)
C) I should try and find someone who is roughly as messed up as I am (if it is possible)
D) you would consider going out with someone who meets my description, but proceed cautiously
E) I sound like your ideal man

This is a hypothetical question, but be honest please.



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17 Sep 2007, 7:29 am

My suggestion would be to work on bettering yourself first and then after you feel that you're in a better situation and feel better about yourself, then look to find a woman after that. Many women like men that feel good about themselves as much as a man would search out a woman that felt good about herself.



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17 Sep 2007, 7:54 am

I often feel suicidel but it isn't because I hate myself. It just feel depressed. I don't think I have any real nagative thoughts about mysel.



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17 Sep 2007, 9:46 am

You have issues but you admit that and own up to them...a lesser person would not admit to them or attempt to conceal them. You are learning from your mistakes, as all of us do at some time in our lives.

You may not be holding down a "decent job"...but you've made intelligent investments and are seeing a result from them. Many people don't even think to invest. Investments may not be guaranteed income for the rest of your life...but then neither is a paycheck these days.

You have the self-disciple to stay fit and succeed with martial arts...which tells me you are actively seeking self-improvement. Very cool.

You value intellect and care about what is going on in the world today.

You have a sense of humor.

I'm far too old for you...but I'd give you a D. You're trying...you're not "messed up"...stop selling yourself short.


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17 Sep 2007, 11:08 am

D or E. I say D or E, because you are very young and very smart and man enough to come out and recognize that you were addicted to drugs and alcohol. I would rather have someone like you, who knows about himself, than some unfortunate person that does not have a clue that they have a problem. But don't ever forget what the problems were, so you can "kill" them as soon as they would creep up on you again. I am talking from experience, from my own family, we had a bunch of relatives that did not want to even start thinking that they had a deadly problem, like alcohol. And also know that your family and the people that love you actually suffer much more intens than you, if you let yourself go again. You die quik and they die slowly, inside. I am sorry if I sound depressing, my response is meant to praise you and give you my experience. You are definetly going to make it. And enjoy the ride, also.



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18 Sep 2007, 12:56 am

I'd say D. You sound very nice, but a little scary. I find most people scary, though, and I'm always very cautious on dates. I think you have potential, you have definitely achieved some of your goals and it is only a matter of time before you achieve them all. I'm not sure what your definition of a "regular" woman is, maybe you should be asking non-aspies to rate you if you're hoping for a regular person to date.



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18 Sep 2007, 2:55 am

Aerin wrote:
I'd say D. You sound very nice, but a little scary. I find most people scary, though, and I'm always very cautious on dates. I think you have potential, you have definitely achieved some of your goals and it is only a matter of time before you achieve them all. I'm not sure what your definition of a "regular" woman is, maybe you should be asking non-aspies to rate you if you're hoping for a regular person to date.

Well the other sites I post at don't have many women (they are martial arts boards). I just thought I would throw this out here to see what reaction I got(I am not sure if I would ask a woman this exact same question in real life). I was in a depressed and cynical mood when I made the thread. I am a nice guy, but I have some honestly scary issues that I have dealt with in my life(some things in life are scary, this is just reality). But I don't hurt people (I have never hurt anyone), and am an honest friend and human being. I get overwhelmed by life, but I am sure things will settle down a lot more once I am a bit older and have stayed the coarse for longer.



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18 Sep 2007, 7:03 am

D if I was looking at the moment.


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18 Sep 2007, 6:46 pm

a good D, if of course you threated me well



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18 Sep 2007, 6:47 pm

Yasmine wrote:
a good D, if of course you threated me well



Treated or threatened?

I could probably manage both. :P