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15 Dec 2007, 11:18 pm

Love conquers all. What would it hurt to tell them how you feel? The worst would be if they said they only wanted to be friends. And if they said they wanted more.............................. :)



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16 Dec 2007, 9:31 pm

I honestly don't know what to do. Anyone got advice for me?



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17 Dec 2007, 1:03 am

Tell him (or her, don't know who it is)

The worst they could say is that they don't like you the same way, and you'll just have to push it off and try to be friends like normal

Who knows, maybe you guys will hit it off, and visit each other, and decide from then on what to do, leave yourself open to options, and tell the person



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17 Dec 2007, 1:06 am

Do you know how to be flirty?


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17 Dec 2007, 1:11 am

gwenevyn wrote:
Do you know how to be flirty?


eww flirty >_<;;

me hate flirty... me don't see it often, then when me do, me get all self conscious and just wanna hide, and hate the person >.>



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18 Dec 2007, 7:28 pm

gwenevyn wrote:
Do you know how to be flirty?


No. Wouldn't have a clue.



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18 Dec 2007, 7:30 pm

well its pretty easy-like if he likes you back

or you could get a firend to ask but make sure the guy doesn't know you wanna know...



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18 Dec 2007, 8:09 pm

He does like me back, but... I remember him saying that he never wants to have another relationship.



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18 Dec 2007, 8:15 pm

In that situation, given my past experience, I'd get on a plane and go straight over there without hesitation.


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18 Dec 2007, 8:35 pm

If I had the money, and mum would let me, I'd go to the US and meet him.



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19 Dec 2007, 5:12 pm

Berserker wrote:
When you have feelings for someone but can't do anything about it?

I know I hate it. I really like someone, but there's nothing I can do about it.

I hate having feelings for someone.


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19 Dec 2007, 7:25 pm

greenblue wrote:
Berserker wrote:
When you have feelings for someone but can't do anything about it?

I know I hate it. I really like someone, but there's nothing I can do about it.

I hate having feelings for someone.


why praytell?


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19 Dec 2007, 9:36 pm

I linked him to this thread, so I hope he's read it. He hasn't been online, so I can't ask him though. I hope I didn't freak him out...



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19 Dec 2007, 10:48 pm

Berserker wrote:
If I had the money, and mum would let me, I'd go to the US and meet him.

While that says a lot, make sure not to rush him.

You said that he mentioned he never wanted to be in a relationship again. Well...though I am but one person, I can say that that can change rather quickly. Not too long ago, I had given up on such things, I didn't even think about it. I didn't want to think about it, because I was so sick of being given the impression that something might go somewhere, only to be shown that I was just being used again. (I was also drowning myself in alcohol at the time, but that's not really the point.) Now... there's no point in trying to describe how amazing of a girlfriend I have, words could never do her justice.

Be direct. Telling him how you feel isn't an ultimatum. It doesn't say "You have to agree to X, Y, and Z by this time." Just make it clear how you feel about him. If he's ready, he will let you know. He may not be, and that's not necessarily a rejection of you, it could just mean that he's not ready for anyone yet.



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19 Dec 2007, 11:34 pm

Thanks for that, shadexiii.



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20 Dec 2007, 6:41 pm

Excuses, excuses... just do it and accept the outcome. :)

..then you can at least tell yourself you've done what you could, rather than always wonder if you could have had something if you'd only acted.