How Do You Feel About The Words, "I Love You"?

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I say it way more than I used to but, like many others here, it sounds hollow when I say it even though I know it's true. It's like an automatic response more than anything. Like I know I should say it so I do. I feel it inside but I don't feel the need to express it by saying it. Does that make sense?

yes, many have that

Those words are something that I'm just unable to say, no matter what the situation is.

Those words are words that I dont think I've ever said but sometimes I think it like once in a great while. But in a way it can be useless. I remember my cousin sayin "we love you but...." And she was yelling at me at the time and trying to enforce her opinion which I hated. Love? Yeah right.

All my aspie s-i-l wanted to hear from his beloved son was, "I love you." And he got the best Christmas present this year when his son told him, "I love you."

I would say that the same for me, well it is in regards to anyone except my children and then have no problem saying it.

I don't feel that I understand what the words "I love you" really mean. On an emotional level that is. My mother has told me that she loves me many times, I never know how to respond.

I said once I love you. Italics were needed because what I meant was that I loved the addressee and not another woman.

It's a cute little phrase, and sometimes I think I meant it. But what would normally happen to me is the girl I say it to starts saying it every 8 seconds (practically) and it's kind of hard to not say it back without sounding like a dick or getting yelled at.

I like the idea of saying "I love you because of" or "That's why I love you" etc. That is a nice idea, and I may try to purposely institute that into my next relationship.

It doesn't need to be said, because words can be given to anybody, but when it isn't a lie it's fun to hear? I prefer actions myself. Let me SHOW you how I love you. Please SHOW me. We need not speak about it all the time.?

I agree with those who say that the words are hollow without some act to back them up. I don't like saying them because after a while they lose their meaning.

I said I love you for years to my parents without reeeeaalllllyyyy meaning it, but now that i'm away from them I mean the words. Its like the word has to earn its meaning before I say it....there must be some experience that contributes to it

When I say it to my children I really do feel and mean it.

Yet never been able to feel or say it to my mother, father, brothers, sisters or anyway else!

I agree. I only say it when I really mean it. On the other hand, once I have said it to someone I really do love, I will say it every time I am saying goodbye on the phone. And I mean it every time. For example, when I am saying goodbye to my parents or my brother in law, I say "Love you. Bye" at the end of a phone conversation. Every time.

That phrase is a loaded weapon..

Me too.

Maybe I'll just be content with actions. They're visual too, which is an added bonus.

I feel the society that The Giver is set in has definite aspie traits.

For instance, when Jonas asks his parents if they love him, he is met with this reply:

I remember the time I met someone and we got to know each other that week by hanging out every day. I invited him over to my house and we ended up starting to kiss and after the second kiss he said "I think I love you." It absolutely frightened me and I thought about just pulling the plug but gave him another chance. IT was a very loaded statement because all expectations were raised with those words. HE turned on me completely when I ended things with him.