Online relationship - bad idea?

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Paladin_Cecil
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17 Feb 2008, 10:38 pm

Seeing as though guys my age avoid me in real life, I have turned to the internet for relationships. I'm only 16, and this is quite dangerous. But, I know my online boyfriend is genuine. I know what he looks like - he sent me photos via Yahoo! Instant Messenger. And he knows what I look like. We met each other here, on WP. He lives in the US, and I live in Australia. And no, I haven't given out personal details like my address. I'm still new to the internet, and I'm still learning what is bad and what is good.


WP, what's your opinion on the matter?



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17 Feb 2008, 10:41 pm

No, I think you're doing the right thing.

If you don't feel comfortable with interacting IRL, or you are actively seeking out a specific type of person (or trying to filter out those you don't want), then you made the right choice.


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17 Feb 2008, 10:43 pm

I'd be very paranoid if I was a girl and doing the online relationship thing.

I personally don't like online relationships, since my personality and the best things about myself... I don't think come forward in the online space. But I'm not opposed to it, I just would rather talk on the phone and meet in person.

If you are good for each other, and make each other happy... have fun... and all that good stuff... well go with it. As long as you are playing it safe, it'll never be a bad idea.

Teh interwebs are filled with pirates and ninjas... so I'd be careful out there. But you're a paladin... you'll glow in the darkness...


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17 Feb 2008, 10:50 pm

online relationship is always a bad idea...

-people can put up false fronts on the internet... look at how easy "To Catch A Predator" does it...

-any prospective partner is probably going to be more than 100 miles away (unless you live near a major city), so unless you or he/she are willing to relocate, you're stuck with long-distance relationships...

-You don't get to know him/her before you start dating aside from what is written on the profile, and again it my be a false front (although that's one of my personal pet peeves apparently, you may not care so much about this...)



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17 Feb 2008, 10:53 pm

He said he'll come to Australia some day. 'Cause I don't think mum will ever let me move to the US...



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17 Feb 2008, 10:55 pm

i view online relationships in this way

*hug* is alot different then actually feeling the warmth of a hug, and many other things, online relationships just=lame in my eyes

but not to say what you're doing is wrong, if it makes you happy i mean it makes you happy


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17 Feb 2008, 10:55 pm

Try actually talking with him as in. . . voice-wise.



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17 Feb 2008, 10:56 pm

886 wrote:
i view online relationships in this way

*hug* is alot different then actually feeling the warmth of a hug

=_=


item #4 on my list...



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17 Feb 2008, 10:57 pm

Seriously, I can't get a boyfriend in real life.

I can't even make friends!!



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17 Feb 2008, 10:58 pm

Whisperer wrote:
Try actually talking with him as in. . . voice-wise.


How?



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17 Feb 2008, 10:59 pm

Paladin_Cecil wrote:
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Try actually talking with him as in. . . voice-wise.


How?


get a mic/headset


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17 Feb 2008, 10:59 pm

886 wrote:
Paladin_Cecil wrote:
Whisperer wrote:
Try actually talking with him as in. . . voice-wise.


How?


get a mic/headset



I have one, but it doesn't work very well.



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17 Feb 2008, 10:59 pm

Paladin_Cecil wrote:
Seriously, I can't get a boyfriend in real life.

I can't even make friends!!


Join the club... (except its a girlfriend I can't get)...



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17 Feb 2008, 10:59 pm

Try skype:

http://www.skype.com


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17 Feb 2008, 11:01 pm

Pugly wrote:



I'm not allowed to download stuff. =/



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17 Feb 2008, 11:03 pm

Paladin_Cecil wrote:
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I'm not allowed to download stuff. =/


Boh, get your parents to download it. I used this to talk with my friend in Hawaii... it's pretty easy to use. Tell them it'll save them money... :D


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Wonder what it feels like to be in love?
How would you describe it, like a push or shove?
Guess I could pretend that this is all I need
Wanting more than what I have might appear as greed.