Flirting or Good Conversation?

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Maybe I was just accidentally let on to believe she had no boyfriend on accident. Damnit, it was an hour long conversation. Why?! Ahh... Umm... ignore all that.

Well, it seems that wonderful, hour long, wonderfully plesant conversation I had this week a with an attractive person had no flirting involved. That, or she's a flirt. I actually thought for a few days that I had a chance, only to read in her profile that she has a boyfrined. Maybe it's outdated? I don't know. Does anyone else ever think that a good conversation is flirting or vice versa? It turns out we never flirted with each other, or did we?

Maybe she has an open relationship, maybe the diary was out dated, maybe she was practising flirting- yes girls do do that, maybe she is just like that if I fell relax with a person and am happy and trying to be social I often come across as flirty apparently.

perhaps she was having a conversation with you

such things have happened with me and looking back, they did not constitute flirting (aside from the hip thrusts and what not)

i find it difficult to distinguish between friendly conversation and flirting, unless it's so overt as to be practically offensive

having said which, i'm also accused of flirting all the time, when i'm being friendly, so i have to watch myself.

it's a minefield, i tell you, a bloody minefield. the way i navigate it is to see where it's going, watch out for danger signs (i.e. being chatted up when i don't want it, or me being "over friendly"), and then be very definite in what i want and saying it with utter conviction and firmness.

how thoroughly "not-very-helpful" is that? lol

Some people like to have long conversations w/o any alterier motive. It is possible she talked to you because she likes to talk.

I thought 'offensive' was defined as the other person not being interested, or feeling insulted by the unwelcomed attentions.

It is not really possible to see flirting directly, so I tend to assume that it is an ulterior motive all the time. I understand that it is never directed at me and I certainly would not stoop to doing it to someone else. I wouldn't have a clue how to, much less the inclination or motivation to do so.

It is sometimes possible to work out when it is going on around me though.

I was never able to see if someone was flirting with me; people around me would tell me that I was being flirted with, but 90% of the time I'd disagree. Basically, by defualt, assume it's not flirting; if you get along well and she actually is single, though, you could try overtly flirting yourself. Just don't ask me how.

<--- not a flirtacious wink.

I've flirted on accident before. Don't know how to catch myself, it's always while looking back that I realize it. It's just that I've never had a successful conversation last that long before. Maybe it was just a talkative person, and I happened to be the only good conversation around, wouldn't be the first time I was a talkative person's last resort. Still trying to figure out if she has a boyfriend, I might just slip the question into our next conversation.