So. There's this girl at school who really...

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...lights my fire.
I mean seriously.
Everything she says
does
the way she moves
talks
reacts
smiles
sweats
stares
eats
is amazing.
I'm fascinated by everything about her.

We've been semi-friends for quite some time.
Then, I had this uber-cool conversation with her.
She has quite a few of the same interests as me.
She's also as intelligent as I am, which is rare.
For me, intelligence is a HUGE turn-on.
Strange,
I know.
She's not your average high-school girl, unlike every other girl at my school.

Up until now, we've known each other, and have had small conversations.
She's so extremely nice to me.
Whenever I'm around her, I become calmer and more relaxed.
She barely knows I exist, and she certainly doesn't know how I feel about her.
I've known her sense elementary school, but I'm just now beginning to see her
for who she really is.
I don't think she's had very many (if any) boyfriends, and I'm really sure that she's single now.
I know she really likes me as a friend, but I'm afraid to tell her how I feel.
I thought about inviting her to the movies casually, which I might do.
Also, our prom is coming up, and I'm sure she doesn't have a date.
I want to ask her so badly, but I just can't bring myself to.
We really don't have much of a chance to be alone, so I'm thinking inviting her to a double-date at the theater with dinner afterwards would be a good idea, because the back of the movie theater is pretty much the most romantic place on earth.

So, does anyone have any advice for me?
Normally, I'm not afraid of rejection too much, but she's just too good to lose.
(My grades have actually lowered a bit because during school I daydream about her)

Ask her to the prom.

The worst thing that happens is that she says no.

The best thing is that you get to go to the prom with her.

I would focus on friendship now. If you tell her the depth of your feelings right away she might freak out.

Ahhh .... teenage love .... that was a couple of decades ago for me. But I still remember the intensity of feelings I used to get.

Helen

It all sounds so simple.

I never considered that she might freak out...
But yeah, that's probably right.
Friendship is best for now.
(what am I saying)
I'll just keep telling myself that.
(yeah, let's see how long this lasts)

haha.
I will get to know her better, regardless.

I think teenage love is overrated, but I guess I have no right to say that until I'm older.

The main obstacle for me is that I'm overweight and not too handsome (ugly).
I seriously cannot lose weight.
I don't eat much.
(In fact, I used to starve myself with the exception of the occasional snack. That got me nowhere.)

You sound a bit deluded there.


Never put someone else on a pedestal, because then they won't be your equal.
I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue her, but you need to get a grip on the situation.

When I say that, I'm talking about book smarts.
I guess intelligence wouldn't be the right term.

We function on the same level intellectually.
I guess that's a better way of putting it.

I wouldnt say hes putting her on a pedastal, rather remarking on how she stand out in comparison to the many stupid teenagers that exist these days (in both sexes)... I graduated high school in 2006 and I was so happy that I did because there were an overwhelmingly large number od dumbasses in my high school...

It wasn't his descriptions of her that I was referring to. When you're obsessed with someone, of course you're going to say all those good things about them. But then he goes on to say things like "she barely knows I exist" and "she doesn't know how I feel", which makes me wonder where all these feelings are coming from.

Like I said, if he's that interested in her, he should pursue her, but as an equal partner. Get to know her as a person, and make sure she gets to know you in return.
(Not just because she's nice to you, or because she's available.)

Hey, kid, you dont need to be politicaly correct for that poster, hes just yellow of you. you're the smartest kid on the planet.

and dont listen to this "equal partner-crap", they are just trying to destroy what you have going here. This is your dream girl and you got to do something to make this happen.(with her) So, trust me, all the best high-school romance start on olive garden. so just take her there and eat something. Its really relaxed and nice, i know alot of people that have done it and are more than happy. so, dont ask her to come to your place, first you should ask her to come to olive garden on a date. then you're home free. remmember, i cant spell, and she probably wants you to. good luck. go for it.

I don't know, the movies sound rather fun:D Do the double thing. Just let her pick the seats, you have the make out section in mind, she might be more of a middle row, not want to miss the flick kinda chick.

Question: do you always type in a "poetic" form? I almost didn't read it all, i thought was a poem. You might want to try tossing a couple sentences on one line, you might get more reads.

Why do you have a problem with me writing everything in poetic form?
It's easier to organize thoughts and portray inflections.
Seriously
you should try it sometime.
I don't know why it would put you off though...
I generally don't read long posts that are all written in one or two paragraphs.
It just looks messy.
It lacks organization.
Maybe that's just the Aspie in me.
I don't like reading novels, because of the way that they're organized.
This may have something to do with it, I suppose.

Anyway, how I type is beside the point.
Some of you seem to think that my thinking is a bit muddled...
DUH!
That's why I'm here.
If I had a clear grasp on what I'm supposed to do, do you think I would've posted this?
You all seem a bit too hung up on terminology.
Let's lighten up!

Also, I'd rather not be referred to as "kid".
I'm pretty sure that I'm capable of having an equal intellectual conversation with an adult at this point.

It's not that big of a deal... I do the same thing, except I separate lines by ellipses rather than have them actually on different lines...

Last edited by ToadOfSteel on 15 Mar 2008, 7:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Sorry if I sounded heavy, I was just trying to be helpful.

I don't know about that other poster, he must work for Olive Garden or something.

Ask her to the prom. Seriously, do it.

I know it won't be easy, I asked a girl to the prom just 3 days ago and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

My advice to you is this.

Do you have a friend you can trust enough to:
A. Keep a secrete for anywhere from a few minutes to a few days
B. Not ask her himself for any reason

If you do, then ask that friend to help you, either by reminding you at a key time, or perhaps physically pushing you towards her.

If you don't, I suppose you can just let your nervousness get the better of you the next time you speak, then ask her when she asks what's wrong. Totally unromantic, but it works.

Haha, the nervousness approach.
I thought about that.
It could work.
But I'm seriously thinking about inviting her to a double date to the movies.
(It wouldn't be a double date per se...at least it wouldn't be presented that way.)
I have plenty of friends who know about this, and they're all rooting for me.
If I don't ask her, they will.
Most of my female friends say that it always looks lame when someone else asks them out for you.

At my school, the whole prom date thing is far more casual than you might think.
I was going to just go with another single female friend.
Which is really nice, because it appears completely non-threatening (bad word, but whatever)

Kill her to make sure no one else can have her

Uber cool........dude!