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Caravaggio
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19 Mar 2008, 7:11 pm

And not just two friends doing something together? Asked virtually everyone with luck and without and not a one can provide an actual answer admitting so on their own part.



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19 Mar 2008, 7:36 pm

A date is a "date" when two parties are spending time together for the purposes of exploring or furthering a romantic relationship. In the NT world, this is usually something that is communicated nonverbally.


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20 Mar 2008, 12:19 pm

Ask if you can pay for them. This pretty much determines things on an official level. If girls ask you to do little things for them, then they have a date in mind, if you're alone. Don't worry about it too much, I've noticed NTs arguing back and forth about what makes a date official, its one of those things nobody really knows too much about, so don't be worried.



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20 Mar 2008, 12:51 pm

I dont know about asking to pay, I've always found its best not to pay for a date on a first "date." It ends up setting a standard that you can get stuck in: always having to pay for the date. Plus I've always found that girls these days want to pay for themselves, any girl worth dating would insist upon it.



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20 Mar 2008, 12:57 pm

Hell I wish I knew. I was apparently seeing a young lady a while back. This was news to me... not that I didn't want to... she was smart, intelligent, witty, had similar interests and great looking. But I enjoyed her company as a friend so would call her up when I wanted to do things (as well as my few other friends). A few months into this and she tells me she's breaking up with me. I never knew we were going out.

Oh well.


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22 Mar 2008, 1:03 am

Complex wrote:
A date is a "date" when two parties are spending time together for the purposes of exploring or furthering a romantic relationship. In the NT world, this is usually something that is communicated nonverbally.


If it is communicated nonverbally, how am I supossed to pick up on it?


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22 Mar 2008, 9:05 am

Maxx wrote:
Complex wrote:
A date is a "date" when two parties are spending time together for the purposes of exploring or furthering a romantic relationship. In the NT world, this is usually something that is communicated nonverbally.


If it is communicated nonverbally, how am I supossed to pick up on it?


Well, that's why were different , isn't it. NTs don't have a problem with it but we do. I wish I had an easy answer, but I don't. The best answer I have is that, over time, many of us learn to pick-up on non-verbal cues. I know it's not a great answer, but the best one I have. :cry:


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22 Mar 2008, 2:49 pm

I am curious on a conceptual level but I am taking this girl I've been interested in since September to dinner at a rather nice place on Thursday. I can't really read her well as she tends to hide how she feels from people, including her own family. I don't think its a date but only because I don't think she would view it as such. Be nice if there was some sort of guideline to follow.

Guess I shall find out come Thursday.



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22 Mar 2008, 3:10 pm

Caravaggio wrote:
I am curious on a conceptual level but I am taking this girl I've been interested in since September to dinner at a rather nice place on Thursday. I can't really read her well as she tends to hide how she feels from people, including her own family. I don't think its a date but only because I don't think she would view it as such. Be nice if there was some sort of guideline to follow.

Guess I shall find out come Thursday.


She is going with you to dinner at a nice place. That's a good start in my book.


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