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ALADDIN_1978
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24 Jul 2008, 9:32 am

When do you ask a girl out, especially if one is busy and one does not see the girl often, occasionally, or one cannot find the time to be together without other people?



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24 Jul 2008, 11:36 am

Walk up to her whenever and ask her out for a cup of coffee.

It doesn't have to be a big fancy dinner. Take her to Starbucks. The important material is the discussion and how you present yourself to her.

Good luck.



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24 Jul 2008, 12:41 pm

Dracula wrote:
Walk up to her whenever and ask her out for a cup of coffee.

It doesn't have to be a big fancy dinner. Take her to Starbucks. The important material is the discussion and how you present yourself to her.

Good luck.

Such would be wonderful if I drunk coffee... I'd only end up ordering a soda.



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24 Jul 2008, 1:05 pm

Tisk tisk. You'll never get any poontang.



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24 Jul 2008, 1:09 pm

Dracula's right -- take her out for a drink, doesn't matter what kind -- coffee, smoothie, slurpee -- and just have a conversation where the two of you are comfortable and can find things that you have in common.

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25 Jul 2008, 9:33 pm

How long do I have to know her for?

Do I have to be sure in a relationship with the girl?

I have to find the girl attractive and like her character/personality ?

schleppenheimer wrote:
Dracula's right -- take her out for a drink, doesn't matter what kind -- coffee, smoothie, slurpee -- and just have a conversation where the two of you are comfortable and can find things that you have in common.

Kris



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25 Jul 2008, 9:57 pm

When to ask her out? When you feel the time is right. Keep it simple. Life will make it more complex on it' own.



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28 Jul 2008, 4:48 pm

Maybe ask her to a movie something like that , you know something can just be considered hanging out or dating , if it works when you're friends it should also work later as a date. To see if she's interested tell her something like "yeah we should totally see a movie or something sometime" , she'll respond " yeah good idea!" or something like that.



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28 Jul 2008, 5:01 pm

If you actually try to set a time with her for that kind of thing, though, and she keeps saying she's busy, she's probably trying to reject you without actually rejecting you (known in some circles as the cold shoulder)...



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29 Jul 2008, 8:08 am

wenever. it works for me.



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31 Jul 2008, 4:45 am

What happens if you hardly know the girl but see each other occasionally at work/university?

GNRfan wrote:
Maybe ask her to a movie something like that , you know something can just be considered hanging out or dating , if it works when you're friends it should also work later as a date. To see if she's interested tell her something like "yeah we should totally see a movie or something sometime" , she'll respond " yeah good idea!" or something like that.



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31 Jul 2008, 4:47 am

A movie is a couple of steps beyond going to buy a drink around the corner, I'd do the latter first.



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31 Jul 2008, 6:19 am

What happens if you hardly know the girl but see each other occasionally at work/university?
She might be taken.


Tohlagos wrote:
When to ask her out? When you feel the time is right. Keep it simple. Life will make it more complex on it' own.



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31 Jul 2008, 9:39 pm

How long to know?

It helps to know someone as a friend first, but this is not necessary. If she tells you off leave, because you will look like a stalker if you stay. Obviously if she tells you off she isn't into you. If it works stay persistent and make sure she knows your intentions.



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31 Jul 2008, 11:11 pm

You don't know the girl and you want to ask her out........

Right.

okay. First. Know the girl, be friends with her........say.........about a year.

then ask her out.


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31 Jul 2008, 11:24 pm

Gamester wrote:
You don't know the girl and you want to ask her out........

Right.

okay. First. Know the girl, be friends with her........say.........about a year.

then ask her out.


I agree, except for the one year part.


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