mv wrote:
Frieslander, you're still in "cocktail party" mode with this woman. You're polite and chatty and charming (as we all are supposed to be at a cocktail party), but you also are not allowed to discuss topics that you wouldn't discuss at a lighthearted party. I was always taught that it was impolite to discuss the following at a cocktail party:
1) politics,
2) religion, and
3) {sex}
I put this last one in braces because of course I wasn't told not to discuss sex, it was just assumed I never would and I had to learn the hard way.
These are the golden three. You can't get into trouble if you stay away from them until a time when you know each other better.
My mother says my grandfather always said that "at the table, you shouldn't talk about politics or religion". I'd add to that football (meaning soccer, for those in the U.S., but I guess for them football -their version- would be the equivalent, so let's just keep it as 'football' for everyone). As Tequila said, usually they're divisive issues.
(Sex is a different matter, if you don't talk about it, it's for other reasons... I'd say mostly because you don't discuss bodily functions at the table.)