Love and Terror

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Last edited by aspergian_mutant on 13 Nov 2004, 1:06 am, edited 1 time in total.

Last edited by aspergian_mutant on 13 Nov 2004, 12:49 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'd like to be in love. I've been infatuated, and cared alot about people, but what is love, what's it supposed to feel like?

The only love I know is the love for my pet cat, a good book and some comfort food.

Love is when you exist for someone else.

In most cases it redefines the meaning of emotional pain.

I don't think I've ever been in love. If it was a first date, then yes I'd be nervous, but mostly about the trying-not-to-appear-anti-social part. If I know a person really well, then no. So love doesn't make me nervous, but being awkward around new people does.

Then i've never, ever been in love. It doens't scare me, as I wouldn't have a clue what it is. The most I can compare it to is complete infatuation.

I have problems reading the body language of men. There has been many times that I took interest in a guy because I thought he seemed interested in me and he was nice. Once I realize that I like a guy alot, absolute panic sets in when I accidentally run into him somewhere such as the supermarket. I am afraid that I will look wierd or that I will say something stupid or that I don't look natural (ie. my stance, the way I walk, the way I hold my arms or hands will be abnormal). Unless a guy that I like is very clearly interested in me (he tells me so), I tend to have a panic attack and become very avoidant when he is near. It's strange because I'll want to see him, yet I am too afraid to be in his presence and will therefore attempt to avoid him. Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing?

The relationships that I have had where there turned out to be mutual feelings have all ended in travesty. One in particular has haunted me for over ten years. Ick!! !

this question seems to change points of view with age.

Wow this is an old thread.
I've never been in love.

I'll let you know if I ever feel it.

I think I've been in love with the concept of being in love. I don't think I've ever been in love with an actual, real person. Infatuated, sure. In love? I doubt it.

Even if I had been, I wouldn't know what it felt like.

Even has a post by duncvis.

Love should be terrible and feared.
Anything less would be too mundane.

Only when I was younger and alot more naive...then there was no fear.

I think the fear grows with age...

It's not the idea of love that scares me, it's the idea that the other person probably doesn't feel the same way, and the fear of finding this out the hard way. I'm insecure.

Love is something that doesn't scare me, and of course I am really in love now (looks at solitary MSN conversation window on his screen **daydreams**)

I feel happy when I am in love, not scared, and the more I am in love with someone, the more I feel happy