So beautiful it hurts...?

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There's this girl I'm friends with, I don't feel for her in the slightest and I wouldn't go out with her (or her me probably) but she is so amazingly beautiful, with a gorgeous smile, perfect hair and the most incredible brown eyes I've ever seen. As well as an almost perfect figure... but anyway, she's just so intimidating, I mean I talk with her and we have a laugh together, but sometimes she just seems so disturbingly attractive that it makes me depressed. I don't know why, but I think it's like, what's the point in my existence when other people are so effortlessly beautiful...?

Thoughts?

We play the hand we are dealt in life, and maybe you look
pretty good in someone elses eyes, just as she looks good
in yours - theres alot of people so the odds aren`t too bad
Try not to put yourself down and enjoy the beautiful things
in life while its still there to see - hope things work out

Eh... I'll rephrase, does anyone get put off by really attractive people? xD

...I'm sorry if you guys don't have female friends, but I was just using her as an example...

I very much understand what you mean. Is this drawing yourself away from her? I have a particularly poor self-image, so I can say that a good deal of the emotions may actually simply be from how you see yourself. If she is your friend, there has to be something great about you I'm sure

No. I enjoy being in the company of beauty.

Ahhh, ...... I am still very self-conscious about my looks around people, even though I get compliments here and there..I was at my sister's pig roast and a man asked if I was Steph's sister. I went to the porch to introduce myself and shake hands with the 2 men, who were older than me, and bikers ( very mellow and cool folks)..The second fellow said I was beautiful twice by the time I shook his hand. I was so uncomfortable, all I could do was say," Thank You" and smile....He said, "Whoa, she's humble, too"... I wish I could have been more confident about being complimented. I told my sister about it, and she said I should have replied, "Well, of course I am, I'm Steph's sister" just to be a smarty...The point is, if she is even more confident than she is even more becoming in your eyes... I do not intimidate folks with my looks,I think it is better to be humble.I have my mom's eyes, so she deserves the compliments......But for those women who project confidence and ooze sex appeal, more power to them...can you handle them?

And remember, beauty fades eventually...we are left with our natural selves, which is our inner beauty, our wisdom, our grace, our insightful patience, understanding, the true beauty.

You're placing WAY to much value on physical beauty. So much, that it sounds like you wonder why someone as amazingly beautiful as her could hang out with someone with average looks like you. People often make the mistake of over-valuing what they don't have, & it sounds like that's what you're doing here.

Just imagine. She could be online on some other message board feeling low about herself asking why this intellegent & funny guy is hanging around the likes of her.

I know what you mean. I'm dating someone I find amazingly attractive and sometimes think to myself, "why in the hell is this sexy man even speaking to me? I don't deserve to get any attention from him." It's the same with particularly attractive friends. Some of it is knowing you may be judged because you're "ugly" compared to them(not saying that you are, but I know that's the thought in my own head), and some of it is thinking that they're amazing because of their beauty. Just remember that she's just like everyone else.

She would probably appreciate your looking past the exterior to see who she is inside.

I'm amused that you get put off by attractive people, as it seems the case with your friend who is remarkably gorgeous, but whom you have no interest in.

Don't think yourself odd for thinking this way, we all wonder what life would be like if we were more handsome, intelligent, wiser, etc. By your description of your friend, you seem like you don't have a very high opinion of yourself, as you said, what is the point of existence next to such a beautiful creature (paraphrasing of course).

But remember this my friend, not all that glitters is gold and every rose has its thorns. Terribly cliche', but let me explain. "All that glitters is not gold" means that although physical attractive people may seem perfect because of their beauty, they are human beings and have their own problems. They even might feel the unrelenting pressure of trying to please others because they feel their beauty needs to be complimented.

As for "every rose has its thorns", beautiful people are not perfect, as I already stated, but also because they are attractive, they might be haughty and arrogant about how they look. In the same manner a rose is beautiful but can prick you with its thorn, beautiful people (physically speaking) may seem beautiful, but they can possibly arrogant, foolish, and impulsive. I think this is true of a lot (not all) of naturally attractive people, because they think they are beautiful, they think they are superior over others. What foolish arrogance, beauty dies with age, but intelligence, kindness, and respect are immortal.

A beautiful girl without manners, respect, kindness, intelligence, or morality is about as useless as a winter coat in Hell. This is my personal belief. I don't know what your friend is like, but remember that YOU have natural gifts as well, whether it be humor, wisdom, intelligence, charisma, talent, or the numerous other things I could go on with. Beauty dies.