Are Asperger Men more into Looks?

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This is not to offend anyone. I have met a few Aspie guys and I am Aspie female.

Aspie girls I have met do not seem to be obsessed with their guys' looks. I have dated some great lookers and dorky looking guys. I liked the both.

But the Aspie guys - 100% of them- were way more into looks than any non-Asp guy I dated. I MEAN OBSESSED. Obsessed with sex, looks, who is hot- almost like they were stuck in teen-age mode. Flick them in the wrong spot and -boom- instant reaction. And age range of men I am talking of was 22- 47.

Please don't get me wrong. I love Aspie guys because they can be very senstive and kind. But I would not date another.

Conversely, Aspie girls I have met are all up into theory and thought and philosophy and we want to talk about that, not the hot chick on TV or wanting to rub me with baby oil for four hours. OK, an hour would be nice, but 4 and then no talk about philosophy?! I can pay for that.

Just a question. Please don't take offense anyone. Just kindly point out if and where I am wrong!

I wouldn't say that most aspie men are THAT obsessed into looks. There is some concern about looks yes, but not as extreme as you are saying. Those that are probably have problems discerning reality from things like TV...

i care 0.00000001% how i look and 0.0001 how my hair looks autism is diffrent with every person really it depends

I'm not, beware of sweeping generalisations not all aspie's are the same you know. To be totally obsessed with looks alone is extremely shallow whether you've got asperger's or not.

I think it's because many of us (though not all) Aspies tend to be more "immature" than NT's, especially when it comes to emotional development.

It could be that people who have trouble with emotional reciprocity resort to phyisical reciprocity.

I'm a firm believer that looks synergies with personality. You could be a perfect 10, but if you act uncivilized, I couldn't tolerate being around you.

You must be talking about insecure aspie guys. They kind who need to prove to themselves that they can date women as asthetically pleasing as NT guys can.

the thought of touching anyone is not very pleasing unless i have some connection with the person. and to gain that i need to admire her, usually for her personality.

however, i am slim and therefore i find chubby people a little repulsive.

from what I have seen, that is true
a lot try to cover it up...but its just for show

Some are into looks, some aren't.

Hi there,

It is probably a self-esteem thing. I tend to go a bit vain when I feel a bit insecure. And I'm not bothered when I'm good and full of confidence.

A bit of vanity isn't bad, I think 'cos otherwise I would really look like a bum. Not shaved, bad teeth, wrecked(?) closes, those sort of things.

Into the nuisance state again, this....
Isn't self-esteem the determiner how you perceive things? The lens you look through or the perceptive you take determines what you see or how it gets through to you.

mmmm.

Best of luck to you all,
Ceesjan

While I am not saying loooks are totally unimportant, I would definitely not consider it a priority or a very important thing. Usually when I like a girls personality and fall for her, I will also find her physically attractive, see things I didnt notice before such as how cute her smile is, how beautiful her eyes are, ... I would not say looks are trivial to me, but definitely amongst the more important aspects of the girls I liked. Personality is much more important. Also, I sort of dislike terminology like "hot" somehow.

I must say I am a bit vain about my own looks though. Hence maybe why I am so attached to wearing make-up. Many men seem to not care too much about their looks, or not in great details though.